How would you feel if your friend saw a topic you started about her/him???

@MorningDew (833)

Saudi Arabia

January 19, 2008 3:10am CST

I started a discussion before about one of my closed friends.. never thought she will read it since she doesn't have an account on mylot... But I was talking to her about this website and how much I love it and respect people here.. She was curious and asked me if she can check it out from my account.. I said yes of course go ahead.. Then saw the topic I started about her "I'm my best-friend's boss"... she asked me if it's ok to read it and I said NO -don't know why- :s I felt she was upset because I didn't let her... Then after a while I said to myself why not?? and let her read it... She was much happier and accepted the facts I wrote about her... How would you feel if someone you started a discussion about read it??? Would you allow them to?? Ever happened to you???

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@silver_shaddow (1204)

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19 Jan 08

Hi, I don't know. Maybe Id be pissed off if that person had something bad to say about me. But it would tell me a lot of what that person really thinks. I'd perfer it if he/she would just come out and tell me to the face. Yet I would understand, as it is human nature to be secretive and descreet about things. Which is WHY it takes GUTTS and lots of it to just tell it to the face. And another thing.. If u wanna talk something about a friend, it better be a good thing or never say it @ all, if ur not gonna face him..cuz one way or another, he/she will find out and the out come will not be pleasant. Iv seen this happen to me and i tell i am still out-raged.

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@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

19 Jan 08

I did tell her everything, she even read it here :p I think you are right we must never say anything bad about anyone unless we can say it in the face... Thanks for your response :)

@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

19 Jan 08

It has not happened with me so far. But if some of dear friends write a discussion about me, I would be glad to see that. I will have no problem, if my dear friend discusses about my negative points, as well.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

19 Jan 08

Thanks for the response... I think I won't feel bad at all as well :)

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@dpk262006 (58676)

• Delhi, India

19 Jan 08

Let us wait and watch, if any of our friends think about starting a discussion about any of us...LOL!

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

19 Jan 08

Loool I wish they don't :p

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@subha12 (18441)

• India

23 Jan 08

i think it will be nice if i can bring my real friends here. i have started very few discussions about them and so they will not feel bad at all if they read it. whatever be it about them, was only to get help for them and sympathytise wioth them.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Hi Subha.. I actually have 3 real friends here 1 of them I met in real life and looking forward to meeting the other 2 :) Thanks for the response...

@Sharon38 (1912)

• Jamaica

21 Jan 08

Well MorningDew I think you made the right choice. If my close friend wanted to read what I wrote about him/her then I would allow them to. You see when you know your friends then you will know what they can or cannot take.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Thanks a lot for your response dear Sharon :)

• Philippines

23 Jan 08

well, i think i will be upset and would never want to let him read about it, especially when it is about our problem.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Actually my discussion was harmless and she didn't hate it or me at all.. Lucky me ;) Thanks for the response...

@DarsanReddy (10)

• India

21 Jan 08

No i had ever had such an exiciting incident ........ i would like to tell you one thing that ...this photograph with a green eye is very strange and horrifying

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Thanks for your response.. The eye picture reflects my actual personality :p

@academic2 (7000)

• Uganda

19 Jan 08

I thought I would never start a topic that would hurt the feelings of people I know, most of all my close friends-infact I would start something that would inspire them to read and be proud about it!

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Thanks for your response.. Sometimes you don't mean to hurt people's feelings when you start a discussion yet we can't be sure about it :s

@shotgunner101 (315)

• United States

20 Jan 08

Well I have had a similer thing happen in my life.I wrote about stuff online and let a friend see the site and he ended up getting pissed because i mentioned him online and he doesnt like to be talked about behind his back :(.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

OMG.. No thanks to God my friend didn't get mad at me, since I didn't say anything bad :D

@whiteheather39 (24403)

• United States

20 Jan 08

Unless it was something praising the person I would never ever write anything on the inter derogatory about anyone I knew. Even it the person in question did not happen to see it there is a very good chance someone else who knew this person would see it and tell them about it.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Agree.. Thanks for your response :)

@deadraven999 (1386)

• Saudi Arabia

21 Jan 08

I remember that discussion of yours and I think, there's no problem if your friend read that discussion coz that discussion shows you care about her, absolutely there's nothing wrong with your 'im my best friend's boss'. Generally speaking, I agree with you on the fact that I would not feel comfortable if a friend of mine read a post I made criticizing something that she/he did but I guess in the end that's fine as long as I don't cross lines. Mylot or any other forum, sometimes we do cosider it a place where we can expose how feel about things, we say things that sometimes are too difficult 2 say in real. Did ever happen 2 me? Honestly not yet. Thanx 4 the lovely post Priness Emma

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Hi there... I think now every1 knows my name :p She actually read my discussion and she was okay with it.. but she got mad at me because I didn't let her read it the first time :") Thank you very much for your lovely response -as said by her- ;)

@LittleMel (8742)

• Canada

20 Jan 08

my husband knows about mylot too and he does check out my discussions and blogs. I would imagine anyone he tells about mylot would know my ID here, but if they don't like what I said here (if I said anything about them) I won't change it. I don't know for sure if they ever talk good or bad about me anyway and I don't live my life based on others opinions anymore. My best friend and close friends would love what I wrote here about them, they deserve it, so they know how much I appreciate them.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Thanks for the response... I can tell you only say good things about your lucky friends :)

@Estina54 (385)

• United States

20 Jan 08

Well, it didn't happen to me yet. If somebody answered a discussion without having an account, I would wonder too. I don't know how to participate on a website, both Mylot and others without signing up first. And it would be good to do this, because I don't know right away if this is a site for me, and I don't need to receive newsletters from them. I know that I can unsubscribe. Actually, one site, did not unsubscribe me and kind of think it had spyware and I couldn't know until I signed up. I reported the site for spam. Don't get me wrong. it was NOT Mylot, another site recommended by a "friend".

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Thanks for the response...

• United States

19 Jan 08

I wouldn't care if someone I wrote about read my post. I generally do not write anything that I wouldn't say to people in real life. If I read a post about me that was negative, I would assume that THAT is the person's real feelings toward me.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

For me it's always how I feel when I start any topic here... And the good thing that I had already talked to my friend before she read my discussion. Just didn't think she will ever read it...

@Chey1970 (1186)

• United States

19 Jan 08

Being it's about a friend, the subject matter should be of some sorta praise to them, so it shouldn't bother them that you wrote it, but more flattered that you would write about them. Now, if you wrote dissing them, it wouldn't make you much of a friend. *** Special note* the word "you" in my comment, isn't actually you, but "you" in a general manner of speaking.

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Hi there.. I got it -the you thing I mean- ;) I know what you mean we should always have respect to our friends or we are not real friends... Actually what I wanted from my discussion was just an advice didn't mean any harm to my friend. Thanks for the response...

@Ravenladyj (22902)

• United States

19 Jan 08

I guess I wouldnt feel bad or concerned since i wouldnt write anything that I wouldnt say face to face to that person ya know...They may not like what I have to say or the fact that I shared it in a forum but you ppl dont know them and I needed to vent...If my friend doesnt care for it then whatever...harsh? maybe but reality all the same..

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

19 Jan 08

Thanks to God she read everything I said in my discussion including my responses to people in which I told them that I talked to her about it... and no harm was caused.. Thanks for the response :)

@raijin (10345)

• Philippines

19 Jan 08

I know I have two friends who's made a discussion pertaining to me, I for got the first one but the last one was about racing posts against mine. I knew that she was racing on me (though I just kept it for myself), I was inactive for quite a month that time. But she didn't knew that I was monitoring this site's activity, though I am not participating through posting. So when I got back (actively), she told me about it and I told her that I know even right before she made the post. After that, she didn't replied to that last message of mine. I guess she felt shy about it, but I told her that it's okay and it's also been a pleasure for me to be the topic of one of her discussion. Anyways, she did won that race but she's not active now for a couple of months now..

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@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

Hi there.. I'm sorry for what happened between you and you and your friend, hope she understands that you weren't upset or mad at her... Thanks for the response :)

@cherriemae (3370)

• Philippines

19 Jan 08

hahaha...i had a friend too whose the one introduced this site, then i made a topic for her, but i have plan for that, that's why i made that topic for her to be aware that she really needs a change on her attitude being so so negative..she's not mad at me, actually, she only laugh then she gave a comment on my topic..

@MorningDew (833)

• Saudi Arabia

23 Jan 08

That's very good actually and had positive results :) Thanks for the response...

@chrislotz (8137)

• Canada

27 Jan 08

No I can't say this has ever happened to me. I wouldn't let any of my offline friends or my hubby join mylot. At least not to my knowledge. I don't want them to know the things I post here. Not that I post anything bad or not true, it's just I use mylot to release my stress and I know it's safe for me to post what ever I want to. There are some things in my life I wouldn't want anyone else to know about, but here in mylot no one knows me offline so it's okay to post them here.