Do You Hate Being Baby Mom # 2?

Are you wrong, yes. In order to understand you have to know where he's coming from. Communication is key. I don't know nothing about that drama, because I am just understanding with certain things. But I guess I do have the reversed version sometimes. There are people I've dated who thought that my children's father's did too much and felt it made them look bad, like they weren't a man. The childs father offered, I don't ask. It's all crazy, and unfortunately when there's baggage from previous relationships, drama comes with it. You'll be fine. Just don't take it out on the child.

As you must have expected when you hooked up with this guy, his ex will in some way always be a part of your life with him because of the son. As far as the extra money, well, it depends on what it is for and how much he already pays in child support. I know that when I was getting support from my daughters dad, it was a small amount and so when things came up like her sports etc, we would split the cost. Also we split the cost of dental bills since there was no insurance. He did not help me pay for health insurance which was quite costly and so we agreed that he would pay co-pays and anything not covered.

I do not have any children and I have never experienced anything like this before. I imagine that it must really hurt you whenever she calls. I really don't know what to say to help you, because her child is just as much his as your is. If you were in her shoes, you would want to get as much help for your son as you possibly could. Am I right? Maybe you can talk to him about how these things make you feel and hopefully he can reassure you about his feelings toward you and your child.

Listen, you are right you shouldn't have to put up with this,but you are and that is your choice.I am sure you are making it for the good of your child.You need to understand that the kids should come first in his life.Did he tell you that he feels he has to cater to her?About the money as long as your bills are paid and your child cared for I don't see the problem.I have kids and they always need something and most times child support isn't enough.Have you ever heard chose your battles wisely?This is one you probably won't win.As a mom I can tell you it is hard to trust people with your kids even a father.Would you have a problem sending your baby to her house if they were together?It is a hard situation to deal with.Good Luck

Listen, you are right you shouldn't have to put up with this,but you are and that is your choice.I am sure you are making it for the good of your child.You need to understand that the kids should come first in his life.Did he tell you that he feels he has to cater to her?About the money as long as your bills are paid and your child cared for I don't see the problem.I have kids and they always need something and most times child support isn't enough.Have you ever heard chose your battles wisely?This is one you probably won't win.As a mom I can tell you it is hard to trust people with your kids even a father.Would you have a problem sending your baby to her house if they were together?It is a hard situation to deal with.Good Luck

That must suck.. :\ I guess you're pretty patient and much in love with him to take such heartache like that. Luckily for me, my daughter's father and his new wife get along well. we're actually best friends so I don't ever try to get in the way of their relationship. Plus, I don't ask him for anything either... so we both live seperate lives. :)

wow, that is very very starnage situation. but i believe you can do it, just purely fight for your right. talk to your guy about it and explain your thoughts. if her gets angry, he does not love you i think. sorry to tell you that, i had a friend with the same situation as yours. they broke up because of the first woman in the man's life. yes, she is using him and trying to use their son too to get what she wants. tell your man about your situation and how it upsets you.

I can understand the situation you are living,and I don't know where you're from but I think that you should be patient and pray God if you are a believer in God to let your guy wake up from his dream.because if it's in my area,this situation is most of the time a juju situation.And let me ask something why didn't your guy married none of you,then things could be more easier I think.Because at a certain age of his child he could asked the woman to have the kid for taking full control of his feeding situation.For me if he could live with you now,just let him married you and ask him to bring his kid to home.

i think you should talk to him and make him draw the line on where his relationship with the other woman should be. Its time he knows his priorities.