Why does everyone say I'll find the right one?!?

I say to stay single and enjoy it. A child does not need 2 parents to be happy. I am a single mom to 2 kids ages 1 and 8. I will give you any afvice you need. Just ask.

Two parents are a preconceived norm and therefore people assume that's how it should be. Perhaps people keep telling you that 'you'll find the right woman oneday' in order to reassure themselves that everyone one, including them, ends up happily ever after. So there a reason or two why you keep getting that response! As for needing another woman. No, not if you don't want too. If you are worried about a female role model or people pester on that front, here's a little secret, women aren't confined to the house anymore infact they're out in the big wide world and your son is bound to encounter many women who will shape his life as he grows up. I think the most import thing is to do what you AND your son want. Take each day as it comes and if you ever feel like dating again, talk to him about it. Good luck :)

Hi! Sometimes, when you ask people for opinion or advise, it's almost second nature that they give out the best, if not, the ideal situation that they think would remedy your problem. In your case, it's inevitable for some not to advise having a woman in your life without even considering if you even want to be or even ready to be in a relationship again, because you are seeking advice about your son, who, in most point of view, needs a mother figure while growing up. Anyways, although we cannot discount the presence of mothers in children's lives, a lot of people survived and turned out to be fine and successful adults even without the care of their biological mothers. Other female figures can help like grandmothers, aunts, female friends, etc. It's not that "there has to be a woman in the child's life for them to grow up right", but instead, it helps a lot that there is also a woman in a child's life to guide and fulfill his other needs too. It's better if he can have both father and mother figures, but that doesn't necessarily mean you have to be in a relationship to be able to achieve that.

No you dont and i am in the same situation, lol i even have the two year old son and i just got out of a sticky relationship. I would be happy to offer advice without the it's ok you'll find a way speeches. i feel the same i dont want a pyschic prediction just an answer to my questions. I dont have to worry much about the parenting side because i have done that bit by myself for two years now and i just get on the net when i need advice, or call a friend who has kids and ask them what to do.

just do your role. be a great dad another partner wont help you being that. set your priorities "your son" start from there and everything will fall into places

The divorce has already hurted your son...

i wld say if u dont anyother want anyother woman go for it. n i do think if u take care enough of u son, he aint goona need anyone else then u.

There does need to be women in a child's life but they don't have to live with or marry you! Aunts, grandparents, adopted or otherwise, godmothers, are all possibilities for the inclusion of a female figure for your child. Don't get into a relationship because you think you have to. Good grief, that alone could set you up for failure. Just be open to the possibility when you are ready. There really isn't any rush. People marry at all ages when it feels right. Single parenting is challenging, so you might want to look for a parenting group or singles group just for support. Don't go there looking for a mate, however, unless that is what feels right for you. Connect with all kinds of people and eventually you could meet someone you like. But don't make it your mission in life to find a mother for your child. He already has one and you can supply female interactions for him from other women. He will be fine.

I think you know best what your son needs. You should not let anyone tell you that you should find another woman. His mom might come around when she is ready. If you do try to find someone too soon that could mess up alot of things for ex: she could get jealous and try to get him from you or the other woman could be jealous of your son since he is so young and you have to do so much for him I would just wait a year or two until he is a little older. I think the time will help you find out what is best for you and him

I don't know why some people are telling you to find another woman. Sure, it is nice when kids have 2 people in their lives that are parent figures, but it's not the most important thing in life. Others shouldn't try and force it on you. It's none of their business. You've been burned by women before, and you obviously don't want to go through that again. I'm sure I would feel the same way about men if it happened to me...

Of Course Not! Who needs Marriage anyway? More than half of marriages fail and thats not good enough odds to chance disaster again. Your boy will do Great with just a Father (and perhaps an occasional mother figure in the bedroom) Your boy will do just fine! Good luck and good Fun!

Most certaintly not! You don't need to have a women in your life or your son's life to be full and happy. What makes you full and happy is the realationship that you two share. Making a loving bond is more important than having a women in your sons life. What he needs right now is the family that he has left to gather around and thow love at him especially if the mom he knew most of his life has up and decided not to be a part of this life. The way your son will grow up right is set by example and discipline and love and nuture and being there and explaining things to him you don't have to have a women in your life .. Does he have a gram and an aunt. If so there you go he has women in his life ...situation solved. Look above all else you know your son best you will know what he needs before anyone giving you advice will. Relax take a deep breath and breath it's not going to be an easy road being a single parent. But I have trust that you'll make it and if by chance you stumble upon someone you might want to date don't let the bad experiences in your life keep you from doing it. Life is all about risks. The greater risk we take in the the more likely you are to get a greater reward. So my friend please relax and just heal first..

I'm with you, I am a woman and I raised 3 sons as a single mother.They are wonderful men. You don't need a woman to raise him that's just ridiculous. If you are happy then he will be happy.I don't understand why people say that. It might be nice but stay the course and keep yourself happy.I did remarry and I wish I never did.

Obviously your strongly against finding another women to make your son's life happy. What you need to do is just be the best dad you can be and your son shouldn't care about the divorce later on when he grows up. I'm 21 and my mom and dad seperated then later divorced when i was around 10 and my dad dated other women then stop acting like a real father and only took me and my sister out to the movies or wherever with his new girlfriend and wouldn't pay much attention to us. But that's not how life went till now im just saying; if your out there to be there for your kid and you realize hes your son and your his father then it shouldn't matter about relationships just be there for ur kid - ya know - Mike

I am going to sound different. Take a break from women. It sounds like you and your son need a break. You and your son will be fine. You don't need a women to be happy. If and I say if you do meet someone special, it will be when you least expect it. Don't look, just get on with your life. You don't need a women to be a good dad. I do wish you and your son all the best.

Being a single person myself, I always got that as well, I think it is a great world today to be single, there is nothing wrong with being single, in fact when I have the rare times I thinking differently I just go and visit one of my friends, that soon puts me back on track, hey you enjoy being single...

no not at allll...............there need not to be an second wife to see your child that decision depends on u ....if u think u can take care of child u can.... else go for second marriage

Of course not. My 6 year old son hasn't seen his dad since he's been born. And he is perfectly happy. I hardly ever date because I don't want men coming in and going out of my son life. My opinion its better for a kid to have one parent who has all the love in the world for their kid than having two loveless parents. Society always thinks that being in relationships are more healthy but its not always the case. That we can;t we truly happy unless we have that so called other half. Well I have more happy being single than I have been in a relationship. Your son will be fine growing up in a single parent home. Don't rush into things just because other people think its the right thing to do

Take your time. There is no need to rush in to any relationship. If you are a good father, love your son and teach him how to be a good person, he'll be just fine. Also, a "mother" figure doesn't have to be the mother or step mom. A grandmother, aunt, close friend, sitter or any other female can provide a womanly figure to look up to and learn from. Make sure your son hears how much you love him and that you are proud of him. He'll know that you have given him the best.