Have you heard of relationship additcion? Do you think you are one of them?

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I am reading a book titled "letters from women who love too much" by robin norwood. The book discussed about women who are so in loved with their partners. the author explained how a person is addicted to a relationship. one example is by being manipulative to your partner. like you would imposed things to him so he would change. You would always want to know where he is, what he does or who he is talking on the phone. You would always want to know everything that concerns him. you would want to take care of him but at the same time you are expecting he would do the same. This book that i was telling you is very indeed helpful for women who do love so much and are not happy with their present relationship. And right now im curious if anyone of you also read the same book or the first book that author wrote (women who love too much) It makes me realize that we people always dwell on what we want and we forgot that we are not always in control of everything. Even our own partner, they have their own mind and feelings, and it is a blessing if both of you agrees and feel the same way. But as we know, we are individual who happens to be together and just wanted to be together for a certain reason but not necessary means that you always feel the same. It is also said in the book that we can not make our partner fill all the empty space or supply all the things we need but instead find other ways or other resources to fill the needs so we are less dependent are less hurt if our partner doesn't satisfied our need. Do you think this makes sense. because i think it does. I thought why friends stay longer than lovers do. One thing i noticed is that when we have friends we give our friends freedom to help or not to help us. we dont expect much from them whereas if that person became our partner we already imposed things that he or she needs to do for us, giving them the burden of responsibility that sometimes kill the moment to enjoy each other. Do you think it is one reason why couples ended up apart because of too much demand and expectations that are unmet.