Things never went bad between us
@phillygirl606 (1112)
United States
January 20, 2008 1:58pm CST
Ok heres the case. I was seeing this guy a few years back. We got along really well. We had so much in common. I really was starting to develop some feelings for him. But because of family problems he had to leave the state I live in. to make a long story short he had to go and help take care of his younger sisters. Well somehow we found each other on the computer. We chatted all night last night. I never got to bed until after 4am. It was like we had never stopped talking. Like we picked our conversation up from the last one like it only happened a few days ago. And as we were talking I was like oh no I still have feelings for this guy. Problem is he has decided to not come back to this state. He really likes living where he is at. Do I need to just forget about him or tell him how I feel? Could anything really come of this with us living so many states away from each other. Any input or advice anyone may have would be really appreciated.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
21 Jan 08
You've only talked to him just this one time since you broke up? I think you need to give it more time before you decide where its going. I think you should be open with him on how you feel, but not expect him to want to move back there. He may feel he same but still not want to move back there. What about you moving with him? If you both still love each other, enough to live together then you will work out something together.
@phillygirl606 (1112)
• United States
21 Jan 08
no we usually talk on a regular basis. It's just been a few months since the last time we talked. Sorry if I wasn't clear on that. And we always hang out together when he comes here to visit. I wouldn't expect any person to get up and move on my behalf, that thought never even crossed my mind.
@jerritts1mom (816)
• United States
26 Jan 08
first lemme ask ya...has any one told you that you look a a little like Persia?
ok now back to your discussion...let me share with you a story similar to yours:
I met my fiance when I was 13-14,we both had feelings and never told one another....years go by,never saw him again...I move away...well,I found him 15 years later on the computer, we are now engaged and he is now moving to my state!!
so things happen ,and there is no limit to what that is when love is concerned!!!
@GyurlTrini (67)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 Jan 08
Hmm, I can appreciate where you're coming from. I was in a relationship about a year and a half ago, which broke up because of one of his ex's coming back in the picture, but I had fallen in love with him already. I still kept in touch with him though.
Anyways, from this experience, I suggest you spend time re- getting to know him again, then decide what to do about your feelings and telling him about them.
Some men are afraid of the words "love" and "commitment" and seem to think that they go hand in hand (which, in the long run, they do) so if a guy has commitment phobia, then indicate that you like him, but don't let on that you're feelings are as strong as love, as yet. Let him get used to and comfortable with an established friendship with you, over the internet or what ever, first.
@Tiddledeewinks (40)
• United States
21 Jan 08
My guess is if he REALLY had feelings still, he'd want to go see you no matter how far it was. So, it looks likes he's comfortable the way it is. Time to try and move on.If you are still wondering if it would have worked out , you'd only know by going to his state for a visit. Then you could tell in person by his face.
