Single Parenting

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I'm speaking from the position of an observer, as I don't have children, but I think one of the best things to try to do as any parent, but especially when you're on your own is to try to be your children's friend - there's nothing worse than not getting on with your own child, or your own parent/s. With young kids, often an active social life is hard to achieve, so going out will require extra money for a babysitter - if you have an older, responsible child, then you could occasionally call upon them to look after their siblings when you want to go out for a few hours/night. Work and socialising is essentially done in the day, while the kids are in care/school. It's a difficult thing to manage at first, but you get the hang of it eventually, and having good communication with your kids makes it so much easier. =D

I was almost a single parent with three children as my husband was always on transfers. It is really a running race for us. We will not have time for any relaxation or enjoyment. If you can manage to get proper help from anybody like good servants or house helper or family member like sister, mother-in-law etc., then may be you can feel a bit better. You have to plan everything properly, then you can manage things well.

it is very hard to balance all three and your mad if you try. Your life will never be the same as before when you was single with no kids. Just try do you best for you and the kids ans you cant go far from wrong hunnie good luck

I was a single parent for a few years and the best advice I can give is not to have to much pride. Ask for help if you have family and friends who are able to help you with things like picking kids up from school or daycare, babysitting once a month so that you can have some time for yourself. Sometimes us parents forget that we have to take care of us and not only our children. Also start you day off with 15-20 minutes of time that is just for you. You can read something inspirational or sit on your porch and enjoy the fresh morning air. Try something like that before getting the kids up it can help make your day run smoother.

Hi, I am new to this site and just saw your post. I am also a divorced mother of 3 for about 8 years now. I have a steady boyfriend, but it's still hard to figure out how to find that perfect balance. Sometimes I think I've got it, but most of the time, I know I don't. I guess I don't really have an answer, just wanted to let you know you're not alone..........

i'm a single parent of my beautiful daughter...it's not that hard for me because we live in my mother's house and if i'm in work, she will gonna take care of my daugther because i cant afford to get a nanny for my kid and i dont want to hire a nanny for her because i'm afraid to, and i wanted that only my mother who will handle her..well, i can balance work, social life not really hanging out with my friends because i wanted to have much time with my kid, and about parenting, still i can manage because if i dont have a work, i make sure that i will take care of my daughter, talk to her, make laugh with her, teach her, play with her, and anything that could a mother can do to her child..

I was a single mother of two for a long time and reality is that you balance parenting and working and the social life is kind of out for a while. I mean if you have a babysitter, then you can probably get out every now and then...but your main focus should be your children and supporting them. It will get better though.. I'm not sure how old your children are, but the older they get the more you will be able to have that social life, but it will never be like it was before you had kids. keep us posted and God bless you. I really respect single parents trying to make ends meet and taking care of their children all at one time.

Hello, and here's a new pair of running shoes. Even married parents of three struggle with these issues. There is no easy, pat answer; it all comes down to priorities and choices, and it's all on your shoulders to BE the parent and set the limits. Family has priority over work, and both have priority over your social life, in my humble opinion. This means, if your child is sick you must make sure they're cared for, even if it means calling off work, if absolutely nothing else can be arranged. And work has priority over social life, because if the bills aren't paid there is for sure no party. Of course you must take care of yourself, but motherhood means no more putting your own whims and desires first; you just have so much higher priorities and responsibilities now. No one else on the face of this earth will or can love your children and care for them as you do. I'm a veteran of the single-parent struggles and raised my daughter without husband, lover, or family assistance.

Well I am a single mom of 3 boys! I have a tight schedule during the week I stick too since I work 10hour days. I think it is important to keep your children on a schedule. I also have a home business that i do and I usually do that when the boys go to bed. As for a social life, that I don't have! Nap time is my best friend! That is when I will clean, cook, or just lay in the tub. As a mother you always need your "me" time, even if it is only a couple of minutes.