what do you choose one,your kids or your husband

I have a real situation here .I am married 30 years to a very selfish man .A good suporter and a half as good husband .we have faught the whole marriage .he is some off the wall latter day saint reorganized religon i am catholic he is engish and welsh decent i am italian he is country i am pop music .he has lukemia controlled .he is 54 i am 49 we have 2 kids one 28 one 25 the 25 yr old she is married to a good man my 28 yr old single young man , my husband wanted to move from NYC to Houston texas . 5 months ago we did .my son gave up a 70000 a year job my daughter and son in law gave up there teaching carrer and i gave up my Govt job. he got a transfer the husband .we hate it here no jobs we miss home and my kids lost everything . my husband bought a house so long as my daughter pays half the morgage other wise he has to sell it we cant afford it alone my daughter is telling him to sell it now because they are going back home in june i told him too i want to go home and my son has nothing he is also going back , now for the problem i love my kids and i couldnt imagine not being in the same state as them and i hate texas .he told me he is not leaving and i should stand by him or get out he wants a divorce . i get all my bills i made and no furniture because its new and he paid for it . i can take the truck along with the 850 amonth payment. he has left me before in NYC he quit his job and left us homeless to come to texas 6 years ago then came back to NYC what would you do all you woman out there help me i am very close to a nervous breakdown if it hasnt happen already. liveranit@aol.com is my personal e mail

my husband.Kids are young,they will have their future,friends,and lovers.they won't lack love from people around them.they have plenty of time to enjoy life.If I were married(I am not in marriage now),my husband will be the one most important to me,I am not saying kids are not important,but husband weights more in my heart.

I can't answer this question, because they are both as important as each other. Our children need more care and looking after, but they both need the same amount of love. I couldn't live without either of them, so i can't really choose. ~Joeys wife

as for now, i'm a single mom, of course its my daughter first before anything else..i love my child and she's first for me before anything..you can find man if you like, but its hard to find another children because they from you, blood of your blood and flesh of your flesh..

My kids always come first no matter what. I would do anything for them.

This is something that I personally experience every day! my girls are 8 and 5 and they always expect me to be on their side, even when they are wrong! This is difficult, because as their mother I feel like I am abondoning them if i take my boy friend's side, but at the same time when they are wrong I feel like I need to make them realize that he is in control as well. I say it depends on the situation (purely from a discipline stand point) just in general I believe that a mother, or father, should always choose their children over their significant other!

Kid of course. Men come and leave, but kids stay :)

well that is depending on what your talking about. for me my kids are grown so the easy choice is my hubby who i live with but if it was that my kids were small my kids . then again depending on what we are choosing over