Am I Over-Reacting?

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Okay, I know that some of you remember me talking about my friend who I believe is an alcoholic. He is in denial, so I had been trying to talk to his girlfriend about getting him help. She is my best friend. Now, it seems that she is in denial also. So, maybe my ideal of what an alcoholic is, must be off. The other day I was hanging out with them and he was drinking back to back. The kind of beer he drinks only comes in a sixteen ounce can. If he drinks the entire sixteen ounce in one sitting he throws up. So, he goes to his friends house and lets him drink some of it first. Then he comes home and downs it in one swallow. Before, he use to take his time in drinking, now it disappears in two seconds. When I was hanging out there, I saw him drink the entire sixteen ounces, the next thing I knew he was jumping up and trying to make it to the restroom while throwing up all over his carpet. The thing that really scared me though, was that as soon as he got back to the room, he finished the drink and then took tissue and pat the carpet dry. The only reason it does not smell horrible in there is because the smell of cigarette smoke over powers everything. He is a vet and gets a lot of money every month. Between his drinking and he and his girlfriend eating out, he is broke by the second week of the month. So he goes out and pan handles to buy beer. A few places have run him away from their stores because he is disturbing their business and customers. His girlfriend says that he throws up every day. It seems to me that if he did not have to have it, he would not stand out and beg for the money to buy it. He has also stopped taking his psych medication. But, the thing that bothers me the most is the other day when I was in there, his girlfriend let me hear a phone message from his mother. She called to wish him a happy new year and told him she loved him. She sounded like the sweetest mother in the world. I thought to myself, she is in another state and has no idea what her son is going through. I would hate for something to happen to him and hear of her broken heart. So I had been thinking about it all night and the next morning I called his girlfriend. I knew that this would be tough. She keeps telling me that she does not know what to do for him. She has a seventeen year old son. I told her, whatever you would want a girlfriend to do for your son in this situation, that is what you need to do for him. She said she would give it some thought. I believe that she cares about him, but she does not want to give up spending his money. She does everything she can do to keep him from getting in trouble. As most of you know, we live in a board and care and drinking is not allowed. I knew right away that the first approach did not work, so I tried another. I said you know if anything happens to him it will be all your fault. She got very upset, which I knew she would. She said how dare you say that? I said you are the one going out of your way to make sure he does not get caught drinking. He has beer cans piled up in his room and she comes in fussing and making him clean it up. The arguement got so heated that I ended up hanging up on her. She was so afraid that I was going to do something on my own, that she showed up at my door pretending that she wanted to do something. I got some referrals for her and they are sitting in her room. She thinks that she has done enough to keep me quiet and actually, she has, because there is nothing else that I can or am willing to do.