Does your husband notice anything?
By ebsharer
@ebsharer (5515)
United States
January 22, 2008 11:30am CST
Does your husband notice when the house is magicly clean? Or the fact that he has clean underware ALWAYS? Does he think the cheerios box magicaly refills it self? I mean really does he think there is a cow in the back yard making milk and bringing it in the house all the time?
I left my house go to the point that there was like 5 laundry baskets in our room, no clean dishes, no cheerios and no milk. He noticed! 2 days later I decieded I'm gonna do it all, I'm not going to ask for a thing and after 1 month of him NOT noticing I am going to take a weekend trip with some girlfriends. So I did laundry, cleaned, filled the cheerios box and got milk. Did he notice?!?! NO! GRRR!
So back to my question does your husband notice?
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@schilds (410)
• United States
25 Jan 08
I spent a week deep cleaning - scrubbing lime scale off the showers, waxing cabinets, cleaning kids rooms, organizing closets, shampooing bedroom carpets... my husband told me my house was too messy to bring anyone over - it was an embarrasment. The next day I spent 20 minutes picking up the kids toys and vaccuumed in the living room - when he got home he told my the house looked nice. Go figure - I bust my butt for a week scrubbing, and he would rather I just clear the clutter.
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@schilds (410)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Oh yeah - he also has a tendancy to think I don't do anything all day - even when he has watched me cook 3 meals, do the dishes twice, do a couple loads of laundry, change diapers, chase kids, and fetch him snacks all day. He doesn't even notice it and its going on right infront of him. It's like he sits on the couch in front of the tv all day when he's home, so that must be all I do at home every day. It's a good thing he has other redeeming qualities!
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@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I really don't think there is any husband's out there that do notice. They all seem to be oblivious to our cleaning and house work we do. My husband is no exception. For example: We both like the bed sheets to be straightened before we go to bed at night. He normally goes to bed before me. Well one of the first things I do in the morning is make the bed. He will come home from work and walk straight into the bedroom to get in the shower. So you would think he would notice the bed because he walks right by it. But yet when it's time for him to go to bed he will ask me if the bed is made. UGH! GRRR! Hello, are you blind??????? I mean, I know sometimes I don't get to make the bed before he gets home, but that's not the point. If I have made the bed he should have noticed it.
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@speedy1279 (2665)
• United States
23 Jan 08
LOL! I wish I could do that but I can't. I won't sleep in my bed unless the sheets are completely straight. The covers always seem to get uneven on both sides and I don't like having to fight for the covers when I go to bed. So like on the weekends if he is watching tv in there and falls asleep. I will sleep on the couch instead of trying to fight for the covers.
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@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
22 Jan 08
No, he doesn't. He thinks there are little elves that come into our house at night, and do the dishes, the laundry, dust, vacuum, etc. etc. I just don't let it bother me anymore. I get to it when I can, and God help him if he complains about not having clean underwear or something.
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@quiltedblessings (1066)
• United States
22 Jan 08
Oh dear, my husband only notices one thing, and that is when the house is a mess. Clean it spotless and he is totally oblivious. You are so not alone on this one. I've been married for 12 years and still to this day he has no clue if I have busted my butt cleaning or cooking for him. Take a day or two off, and it is like "huh? why is this place so trashed?" Men... lol
@5SCPapaLou1 (143)
• United States
22 Jan 08
As a husband for 39 years, I hate to say most men don't notice all the things their wifes do. It's when they don't do things that they notice. IE cluttered house, clothes not laundered ect.My wife constantly tells me that I don't notice anything unless it isn't done.I know she does all of these things and I truly appreciate everything but men aren't as observant as women.*********************Believe me ladies, it's not that we don't appreciate you, we just don't say it!!!!!!!!!
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
25 Jan 08
Oh yes, he does notice but when the house is not clean or clean underwear is not stacked for him or if some dish does not taste as it should lol! He is not the naggy type really but he will say wait for a week or two and then just make an offhand remark about the layer of dust on the table. Or maybe he will go on keeping soiled underwear on the tub on top of the washing machine (without informing me) and then one morning he will just go like ‘where are my fresh undies, why haven’t you washed them, what will I wear now….’. or maybe at dinner he’ll suddenly make an offhand comment about the food if its lacking something (otherwise on mist days he is a silent eater).
its definitely infuriating!
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@sissy67 (224)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I have to say no...that my hubby dont notice...or if he does...he never comments.
I think its just built into men not to notice stuff like that. They dont focus on the same things that women do. Its kinda weird if u ask me...I mean, how can they not notice if the house is clean and stuff like that.
Also, I have to admit that I think my hubby is a little spoiled and takes alot of what I do for granted.
But...as far as noticeing a whole lot around the house...I dont think he does...heck, he could care less if there were no curtains on the windows....typical...LOL
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@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
22 Jan 08
WOW, are you married to my ex????LOL just kidding, but he was that way. However, my s/o, current relationship, is wonderful, he actually thanks me for doing ordinary stuff around the house, things that I don't even give second thought too. He does take notice that the laundry is done, and kitchen is clean, didn't actually know that a man existed like that til I met this one. Not only does he say thank you for such stuff, but he will, from time to time, tell me to go sit down, I've done enough, and he'll do the dishes or whatever. :D
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
25 Jan 08
my wife is an excellant house cleaner and cook..but she was gone for almost two months and I worked everyday to keep the house clean..i cleaned and cleaned and thought I did a good job but when she returned from her vacation she could see where I missed...not a word was said on how clean the floors were..no but how I had messed "her" house up...so maybe I did miss some dust but I worked very hard to keep the laundry done so she would not have anything to do when she got home but a women can always find dirt if she wants too...she is not perfect either and I have cleaned a lot of cob webs in the basement and other places but I arranged the house to suit me as I was the oly one living here for two months..she can change it back if she don't like it..but sometimes people would like a little appreciation for their efforts...i can see your point as my father took it for granted too...my mom always had a clean home...no thanks to anyone else.
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
25 Jan 08
the couple who live across the street told us a long time ago that the wife was a compulsive house cleaner...and after she had a stroke she learned to forget about being so squeaky clean.
My wife goes to her home town in the Philippines and all she notices is the piles of garbage and the open sewars that are in a lot of public places..when I visit I admire the tropical heat and the beautiful sunrises and sunsets on many white sand beaches...and the awesome amount of fish and sea food that is available and mango and papaya..etc etc..but she only complains because she had to ride ina jeepney..an open vehicle..(which I think is pretty cool) and she wants her own car..and she can't live without A/c...so the last two times she just goes home to the Philippines and always comes home with so many negative comments..I uwas supposed to join her in May but she cut her trip short and came home with a bad cough and now whe gave the cought to me...
in the Philippines she is used to a lot of "helpers" who are really relatives who will cook and clean for you for just a little food or pocket money...so she is spoiled as they wait on her hand and foot...but I like to do stuf without a lot of people around and see the sights and ride the public means..trycycle, motor cycle, or just walk a lot..even in the noon day sun..lol but she just complains about the bugs and masquitos..so that is why we can't take trips together..to much friction
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@neelygal (1022)
• Bahamas
25 Jan 08
My husband seems to be just like yours.Glad to no that I am not alone.What makes matters worse id that now that Im a stay at home mom he thinks I am suppose to everything because he assumes thats my job.LOL.I sometimes get frustrated like you and let things pile up until he notices and then at least he will pitch in and help a little.But he will notice that the fridge is empty and still not do anything about it leaving it up to me.I would probably leave it very long if it werent for the kids but I know that I cant make them suffer because their dad is a dufus.So I guess all we can keep doing is try to make them realise that we do need help sometimes.However you can get his ttention go for it.Good luck to you.
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Would men actually survive if they didn't have us? I mean really most of them forgot how to pick up the phone and order a pizza. I swear the wedding night is not just about doing it .. thats the night when they fall asleep they forget every thing they have ever known about cooking, cleaning or anything else.
@kymommy72 (588)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Oh my husband notices alright....he notices only the bad stuff!!! He can walk in every night and the house be simply sparkling, with his favorite hot meal on the table, the kids sitting like perfect angels and the dog waiting at the door with his slippers in his mouth and the only thing he will notice is I forgot to fill up the dogs water bowl!!! It is soooooo annoying. I work my butt off all day cleaning and taking care of the kids and it's all really not appreciated. He says that it is..but then he will just ignore all the good stuff I do and find the one bad thing. I swear it drives me up a wall. I really makes you feel like not doing anything at all sometimes. Men! LOL
Eva
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@ebsharer (5515)
• United States
29 Jan 08
In a way I think they do notice but if they say some thing then our response will be some thing like "with no help to you" im not sticking up for men believe me i love my husband but i think he SUCKS too lol. At least thats how a guy friend of mine answered this question. (not on here)
