31 and wanting another...

I wont blame you,, im turning to 31 this year too..and i dont have child too... me and my partner would love to have even one but we have some problems to solve first before having a baby..

I would find another OB/GYN, one who does not judge you based on their own beliefs. He or she should be giving you medical advice, not moral advice. It is not necessary to be married to have a child or to be a good parent. I was 30 when I had my son, and it was the right time for me. You have to weigh all of your options and decide what is best for your family. Many women are having children well into their 30's and 40's. You should keep in mind that it can be harder to conceive as you get older, plus there is a higher risk for miscarriage and other complications as you get older. Do not take this decision lightly. Talk with your partner and consider all of your options. Just don't be swayed by other people passing judgement on you because of your age or marital status.

Just give it a little time...that feeling will pass. My baby girl, the only girl of 5, just turned 3. Well everytime one of my kids turned 3 I was pregnant again. So, lately I have had the urge to have another, although I can't (thank goodness). Five is plenty, plus my man has 5 too! So, just don't rush into anything and wait and see if you still have that urge a year from now!

I think you need to do what you think is right, not what your doctor is pressuring you to do. It would be different if the reason she wanted you to not get pregnant was a medical one. I am almost 30 with 4 children. I would LOVE to have one more baby but unless it is an act of God I will only ever have 4. My husband got a vasectomy after the baby was born. We both thought we were really done. He said it hurt a lot, so there is no way he is getting it reversed!

Honnestly the urge will pass. I went through something similar around that age. It passed. Something you want to seriously look at, do you really want to be 50 (or oder) when that child graduates? Since you already have at least one child, do you really want a large age gap between your children. Also, if you aren't married, do you want to run that risk without first getting married and making sure the relationship will work. The other thing to consider, the older you are, the more chances you have of complications and birth defects. Those are all things you want to consider first.

I dont think it will ever go away . I am 35 , daughter is 8 and it still tick tick tick .