Why do most men run away from plus size women?

No your not the only one i had the same problem for a long time till i met my husband he is my soul mate and showed me there are men out there who can love a plus size woman and i am a really big woman.I think some men are just afraid they can't handle us plus size women were to much woman for them.There loss.You will meet the right man for you God just hasn't found the right one to send your way yet.Keep looking he will show up.

Honey your beautiful inside and out. There are loads of men who love plus sized women!

First of all, even though I am female, I have seen a lot of plus sized women who look great in my opinion. I think it's all about how you carry yourself, your personality and even choice of clothing can do a world of good. Plus sized women are big in general (their bone structure) so maybe men are scared of you being able to beat them up?? lol..jk. Have you ever tried going into chatrooms where people aren't actually looking for a date and just chatting there, making some friends? I think you might have better luck doing that than actually going on a dating site where the perv and a-hole population is probably at it's peak lol.

i'm not very small size too..and you are right, there's a lot of very shallow men around who wants model-like gf but then Hello!! maybe they should look themself in the mirror and see whether do they have the same qualities or not. i used to be very insecure about my weight until i've met my current bf. he's kinda skinny when i first met him and i felt like a giant beside him. but all the same, he loves me so much that size to him dont matter at all..he used to be shallow to until he met me...i guess love conquers all. my friend, be patient..there will be a time where you will meet the one man who will love you for who you are! Good Luck!

wow i know how hard it can be i am also abit over weight, I met my faince almost 4 years ago and i have gained weight since i met him i will admit, But am planning to lose alot of it by the time we get married next year! Not all guys are after a small thin girl alot of guys do like us bigger ladies, and if they cant see past the weight and see how beautiful you are either on the outside or inside i honestly wouldnt lose any sleep over it they arent worth it!

Don't be discouraged. You will find the right man for you!Some men, no matter how much they may enjoy your company; just can't handle even the thought of being made fun of by other men if they date a heavy woman. Bleh. who needs them! your knight in shinning armor will come..he will!You are a beautiful flower:)

There are plenty of men out there looking for women of size. Have you tried online dating? Find one that caters to women of size and men who love them.

I met my hubby on the internet lil over 10 years ago...we were just friends and really got to know each other...we never asked for each others picture...well shoot we were just friends...well we traded pictures and I didn't scare him off....I had lost 60 lbs but still not a small woman...he gets so mad at me because I get down on myself....He loves me for who I am. My personality...lol am as crazy as they come now...he made me be me. The guys I dated before him tall thin ... i Loved them 6 + inches like me for my personality but I found my knight. Gotta kiss somefrogs to find a prince.... You'll find someone. I believe there is someone for everyone.

alot of people have shallow minds i think its not just the men there are alot of women that think a big man is not right either i always say get to know me not what you see but i have had this problem as well but i don't let it bother me anymore goodluck in your search

dont know why but i like them, can we be friends?

It's societies fault. You know, you listen to stories passed down from generation to generation about our ancestral immigrants, who came to our country with the notion that the "streets were paved with gold". Unfortunately today, men seem to take things literal and have upgraded that notion to the "streets are paved with Barbies" all free and ripe for their picking. I guess, I would be happy if a guy showed me upfront he was "shallow" and wanted a "Barbie-bot" versus someone who can intellectually stimulate them. I don't think enough mom's are teaching and raising their son's to realize that beauty fades, the hot body may also fade, and then what will you be left with? A wilted shell, and heck if it had no intelligence when they found it--it's an empty shell to boot. I'm sorry you are experiencing things like this, and I guess in a way I am glad I have been married for ages. Just keep going with your head held high, and your intelligence in lead, you are bound to weed out the "shallow-hals" of the world, and find yourself a guy who will love you for you, and who will cherish your beauty.

I've been through this, that's why I haven't dated anyone for a couple of years. Well, that and I'm taking care of my 3 kids. I had an on and off thing with their dad but he was a jerk (putting it nicely), that i couldn't deal with it anymore. I dated someone else who liked bigger women but he loved pot more so that didn't work out. But I know what you mean. They either run, or are weirdos. I've gotten so many instant messages from guys who wanted to talk to me because they thought I'd be easy to sleep with because I was fat. Ha, as if. My only advice is to hang in there, because I believe for myself, and every other woman, that someone decent is out there for us, we just haven't met the person yet.

Ohhhhhhhhhh Honey, I am so sorry for what you are going through!! Men are very, very shallow but not all of them and I am sure you will find someone who will appreciate and love you for who you are - don't ever give up on that!! I have gained a few pounds (actually more like 20:) and am desperately trying to get rid of them however, even tho my partner does not say anything to my face about it there are many indirect remarks...which do hurt me! You know what the funny part is - we women accept men with a pot belly, balding and so on...

I would so not want to be single and dating. Have you tried a BBW dating site?

I am cuddly too lol and I think people should look past size and see what is in the heart of people ggod luck in finding a soulmate , I found mine over 40 years ago xx

Oh poo. I looked at your pics and I think youre beautiful! But it's not what I think. You're right though, most men are dogs. Luckily I found one of the few that isn't one. I know certain churches have singles nights! I don't know if you're religious but I bet some nice guys would be at those. :) I wish you luck!

Do not loose your patience, you will definately find someone to date, just keep looking.

Well as far as Im concerened as long as you're healthy and not like severly obese then I'm cool. I wouldn't want a woman who was out of shape and unhealthy other than that size really isn't that important. My wife isn't a small woman but I bet she can keep up if not out work most of them. In your case your weight is through no fault of your own you got hurt which causes you to be less active then normal. I can understand that and I'm sorry that you're having such a hard time finding love. Any real man won't judge you based on your apperence but on who you are as a person. I wish you the best of luck.

i had a friend who has always been 'big', i mean she is a whole lotta woman, tall and sturdy. after being dumped by her last boyfriend, she started gaining weight, and soon became 'the big girl' for other reasons than her height or solidness. the bigger she got, the more depressed she got, the more she flunked with the guys, the more she ate and didn't excercise. suddenly she had an ephiphany. she's intelligent, crazy-funny, a good friend, a nice person, etc, with a lot to offer. there was a guy who seemed interested in her, and always got all shy and cute when she came onto him. but then he'd withdraw, as if a light went on telling him 'my god, i am NOT attracted to her, she is FAT'. this may not even have been the real reason he did this, but my friend stopped trying to figure it out. and because he hurt her so much by doing what he did, she decided to try an experiment with herself, FOR herself. the pounds just started coming off, but she worked really hard at it. she thought 'is it really true that i don't get jobs because of my weight?' and 'is it really true that guys like me but then end up running scared when they 'remember' that i'm so big?' this was her key motivator for taking off the weight. weight watchers and LOADS of sports really helped her, even though she still eats a LOT of food. i think she just loves food so much, that she needed to find another way to lose the weight, and it is still a work in progress. but she has done really well for herself, and is still dateless, despite the fact that she is almost a so-called 'regular sized' gal these days. and it isn't even the point. she is happy with her self and isn't looking to find a man to fill a void, because she has her confidence back. when the time is right, that perfect guy will be waiting for her. no matter what size she is. she DOES have a lot to offer (no pun intended) and one day there will be a guy who sees that and doesn't run away, even if she puts the weight back on. the same will happen to you. if you really ARE a great girl, somebody is bound to take notice. it just may take some time, and some patience on your part. i am a prime example of this 'wait and you shall receive', though for nothing related to my weight. my current boyfriend denied his feelings for me for a whole year, even though it was obvious to everyone that he wanted to be with me. seems he was waiting for that 'perfect' barbie, even though it had been 8 years and no barbies wanted him. finally he realized i was the best thing for him. he said 'sometimes, just like the song, you can't always get what you want, but if you try sometimes, you get what you need' :) good luck with everything, and i'm sure a nice guy will appear when you least expect it ;)

I have to agree with you on that I have had a hard time finding a man. I don't want a someone that is going to just use me.