company
By wolfcrystal
@wolfcrystal (9)
United States
January 22, 2008 4:47pm CST
we have recently gotten some company, my fiance's step daughter, and her two kids and boyfriend. they have decided to move to the same state as us and are now staying with us, and have been there for the past month. she has gotten a job but he has not but then again someone has to watch the kids but my question is how long is enough time to give them before they should have enough money saved to get their own place. it is not that i don't like them or anything like that it is just that i am used to my nice quiet nights and now with a 5 and 2 year old in the house those days are out the window until they get a place of there own - i just want to know when that is going to be help me please cheryl
5 responses
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I know you probably don't want to hear this, but consider this a blessing. Having family around is a good thing. I know you miss your quiet times, but there will be more later on in the future. Enjoy the children. They are only young once. This will give you the opportunity to get to know them better and to build a lasting relationship.
But then, you could always.....
Have a yard sale with all proceeds going towards a deposit on an apartment.
Offer to help them with the money situation. It is really hard for young families to come up with the rent and deposits for the apartment, electricity, etc.
Do you charge them rent each week? Use it like a secret savings account. Save the money and then when you get enough, gift it to them for the apartment. You can probably save it a lot quicker than they could.
I do wish you the best of luck, I can understand exactly where you are coming from.
@wolfcrystal (9)
• United States
23 Jan 08
i understand the family thing but there are 7 people in a 16 x 70 trailer - and they gave us no time to even get ready for them to move in they called about 10 hours before they showed up
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Jan 08
Sounds like you need to sit down and talk to them about their plans on moving out. They may not realize how stressful this is to you. If they don't have a plan, then you and your fiance need to help create one for them. It may be worth to give them a bit of cash to move out to keep your sanity.
@lpetges (3036)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Bless you heart! being so kind is a very good thing.., but then there is a point where its evident that your being taken advantage of. i can understand that they need time, but enough is enough! i would speak up and mention its time, and that you would be more than willing to help search with them! good luck!
@princessa200145 (616)
• United States
23 Jan 08
put down a certain amount of time to give them and stick with it but i must say that in this economy its becoming harder to find anything i understand your need for peace and quiet.i have had people stay with me for months at a time and i am always glad to have them move along. its just my daughter and me now and i doubt if i will ever let any 1 stay with me i enjoy my peace and quiet and i think u should be quite specific on the length of their stay. sometimes people just dont get it
@qbranchltd (129)
• United States
23 Jan 08
You are in some situation! What are your fiance's thoughts about this? You say you are all squeezed into a trailer? There has to be a family sitdown to discuss this situation with everyone. A timeline needs to be established now and stuck to. Unfortunately, your circumstances are going to put a strain on your relationship with your fiance. If he is willing, decide that they need to go. You might help them find a rental. Before they came to you, they were getting by somewhere else. They need to be on their own again!