Would you let your loved one know you can't stand their b/f, g/f?

January 22, 2008 9:57pm CST
My cousin recently got engaged. Everyone in my family (including myself) can't stand the girl. Not only is she rude and disrespectful to my cousin, but she's the same way to all of us. So far we've all kept quiet. Should we say something to my cousin, or should we continute to pretend to like her?
3 responses
@michelyn (717)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I would probably keep my opinion to myself in the beginning. Now, if the loved one asked me what I thought of their b/f or g/f, then I would be completely honest, but I would also have valid reasons for not liking the person. I would explain that I do not like her because of the way she treats him and the rest of the family. I would also explain that if he insisted on still being with her, that I would continue to be civil for his sake. Sometimes people can't see behaviors like that until the family says something about it. Hopefully, he will see it in his own time before tying the knot.
23 Jan 08
He never asked for our opinion. Not sure if should say anything since I don't want to create a tense situation between us.
@michelyn (717)
• United States
24 Jan 08
But if it's a family member and you see something that could potentially cause them pain or trouble later, sometimes it means taking the chance to speak out.
@dvschic (1795)
• United States
23 Jan 08
i think it depends on your relationship with your cousin, but yes, i think its important to let your feelings known. i dont think it'll help anyone to hide your feelings and have that animosity towards her. plus, maybe he doesn't see what you see. just give him a hint, say i love you cuz, but your taste in women sucks
@dvschic (1795)
• United States
23 Jan 08
i'm a lil tacky, but hell yes i' let me feelings known. i dont hide it and i dont sugarcoat it, it really depends on how close you are to your cousin, if he is your homie, then just give him a hint.. like i love you, but ur aste in women sucks...