Should I have an eye on my wife around the clock ?
By pikeshpd
@pikeshpd (181)
India
January 23, 2008 3:38am CST
Im working man whereas my partner is house wife. When ever I go office she become free of mind like what ever she want, she could do. She do something which erretate me. Like she goes with their friends without me informing. And as it looking she is becoming out of control for me. So do you think I should call off or I should have a close eye on her to have a good relationship. So what do you think plz suggest me...
6 responses
@toms65 (84)
• United States
24 Jan 08
If you want to continue to be married to this woman, you'll need to have 2 things. One is trust and the other is communication. She is "her own person" just as you are. Do you tell your wife everything you're doing? Every where you go? Probably not. She is a person, not a possession. You can't expect her to be "on a leash" and have her every movement reported to you.
Now, at the same time, you should be able to communicate with your wife. This should be open communication, where both of you feel comfortable talking about any subject without fear of being criticized or judged. Also, there is no reason why she shouldn't be able to tell you where she was or who she was with.
Just my opinion, but you're welcome to it.
@chinkoo (2)
•
24 Jan 08
hi, first of all u should not bring ur family matter to public. its life between two people.honsetly am telling u its ur mistake given her too much space. its easy to bring her in control providing should act smart in this moment. cut her pocket money graually without she realizing.without money she cant hangout. and try to be in contact with her when ur outside also.
@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
28 Jan 08
No and No again pikeshpd, tthat is a sure way to becoming a magelomaniac-you are going to go into a demented state and you will socially fail to function-what you need to give your wife round the clock is trust! Trust and you will be free!
@bunmi2501 (465)
• Nigeria
23 Jan 08
Uhmmm! to keep a close eye on your wife is an indication that you dont really trust her again, and that is very bad for your relationship, my advice is that you get to communicate your concern to her, and probably you can also think of something she can do to keep her busy, an occupation or something.
@danzer (2723)
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
Well, the best way is to communicate with her. Tell her your observation and listen to what she says. In the process, keep calm! I hope you two will have a lasting relationship..
@Sushicook (690)
• Sweden
23 Jan 08
If it's bothering you so much, then talk to her! Tell her you'd rather have her tell you these things before, even if it's a spontaneous meeting. But keep in mind that she is an individual. If she wants to meet her friends she's got every right to, there is no need for you to keep her on a leash like a disobediant dog.
