dress up or drab down?

I definitely agree. My boyfriend from the beginning of our relationship made it clear to me that he wanted things to be the same in our relationship whether it was the 10th day or the 10th year, whether it was the level of care we put into our appearance, or putting up with things we otherwise wouldn't in order to impress the other, or anything. lt seems to have worked so far, because after a year and a half together there hasn't been a real dropoff in our relationship, I think because we both knew what we were getting into so to speak.

I agree with you. I've known a few married people that once they settle in they start to let themselves go. A friend back home and I used to have this discussion. When she and her first husband divorced, she began to color her hair, went to the gym with me twice a week and lost about 40lbs. All of the things she did before her and her husband began having problems, nothing new. She dated a new guy for about 6 months and then they married. Within a year she had her gray showing, the weight was back and her idea of being dressed for the day was lounge pants and tshirt/sweatshirt unless she was actually going somewhere. She went into a low self-esteem mode and complained new hubby wasn't paying any attention to her anymore. I remember asking her how could he, he probably didn't even know who she was. That probably wasn't the nicest thing to say on my part, but it did make her think. She slowly started beginning to be her old self again and actually caring about herself. Her and her husband once again get along great. By no means does anyone have to look perfect or act perfect at all times, we're only human, but atleast show you have pride in yourself and in your partner. Little things do mean alot and those little kindnesses make a relationship that much better. And like someone said above...a shower is always a good thing lol.

I definately agree with this. I am glad I don't wear makeup which helps make for special times when I do decide to wear it. The door opening thing is an issue I go throught all the time with my man! It's like he does it on days he feels like... it's so irritating. People too often go for that first impression and impress them by being something they are not!

I agree whole hearted . I may stay home but I get up everyday and do my hair make up no sweats lol . oooooooooh and I shower too. :)

Oh yeah! I totally know what you mean. A friend of mine was in a relationship for about 2 1/2 years. In the beginning she was easily the cutest girl in my grade and all the guys wanted to date her. After about a year and a half or so, she gained seriously like 75 lbs, and now no one wants anything to do with her. I have been in a relationship for 11 months now, I dont get dressed up everyday, but whenever I see my boyfriend I always try to look cuter than i'd be if I were sitting at home on my couch.