There's always time for praise too
By arkaf61
@arkaf61 (10881)
Canada
January 23, 2008 7:11pm CST
I know I tend to rant sometimes. And one of my strongest rant is about people cutting in line. I wrote about it passionately because it really bothers me.
Well, like I tell my kids at school, I will call you parents if you mess up but I will always call if I catch you doing something good.
That's what happened today. For the first time in a long, long time.
I was waiting for the streetcar to come home. It was darn cold - at least for me LOL - but the streetcar didn't take long. I was the first person arriving at the stop and two more came after me.
Because I tend to stay back a bit to allow people to get off, I was half expecting the other two people to go in front of me. It's what usually happens. I stand back for the ones getting of and the people behind me take that as a sign to go in in front of me regardless of the fact that there's still people getting off.
To my surprise, one of the women stopped just behind me and stopped. THe other did the same. As we got in I commented on how I appreciated their action and that it didn't happen often, and both told me that I was there first, so I should go first.
Common sense, respect and good manners. It's nice when it happens:)
SO, did something nice happen to you today?
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9 responses
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
24 Jan 08
yes, I am staying home. It is snowing and cold, so I am lucky not to have much to do outside....
second, my pets are snoring and sleeping all day, making me feel like at home....warm and happy...:)
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
24 Jan 08
every day is happy day, but some are temporarily disconnected....
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
Hi and thanks for the friend request..I'd be happy to!!! I like discussions like these because it seems that the fall of all civilizations began when courtesy, respect and an appreciation for others begins to dissolve.
My mother was raised in England and was huge on manners...and common sense. She also said that; "Common sense is not so common" and much of what we are seeing today confirms that for me...as it appears to with you.
It is good to hear from your experience that there are still many out there who do care and are aware enough to show a regard for others. Part of why we moved from Winnipeg with a population base of over 750,000 people to a rural community with less than 1,000 was to find a simpler, more respectful community...and that we did.
Rural communities and those who live in them are still living with what many think are 'old school' standards. If that is the case I guess you and me are from that 'school' too. People do wait courteously in line, open doors for each other and usually say "please and thank you" as a way of life here. These kinds of pleasant exchanges didn't just happen today...but everyday...and that is why my hubs and me love the live we found away from the hustle and bustle of city life.
Good topic my new friend!
Raia
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
25 Jan 08
Thanks for adding me as a friend :)
I so agree with you regarding respect, courtesy and appreciation for others! Their lack is often a sign of a diseased society.
Of course although people are part of a group, they are still individuals and every once in a while we see the individual effort that makes things feel so much better, bet it for something really big or really small like what happened at the streetcar stop with me :)
But we should really pay a lot of attention because all the signs are there.
I too have been considering moving into a smaller less impersonal area. We were not exactly looking away from Ontario since we have hubby's family here, but somewhere far enough from the big Toronto to experience a calm, quieter and more courteous environment , but still close enough to go to the big noise city if we wanted. But then we had to stop looking because we would feel bad about taking the kids away from their schools and friends just because we want some peace quite and be around people with manners... wait a second, that would be good for them too LOL
No, they have their courses and want to continue in their schools so we just put the idea on hold. For now.
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@Perspectives (7131)
• Canada
5 Feb 08
Hi again.
Thanks for the best response on this topic. Our views are aligned on a lot of things it would seem. If you ever want to a great community to move to...check out Manitou!
We are nestled within the Pembina Valley, with a growing economy in the area. People are friendly, respectful, polite and kids grow up with good role models in a safe community.
I can appreciate the challenge of moving when kids are in school...maybe after they are on their own. You know where to reach me...if you are ever in our neck of the woods...stop by it would be fun to meet in person.
Raia
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
24 Jan 08
Hey Twin that was nice as I agree it does not happen that often anymore that is why I am glad I do not have to rely on public Transport but I couldn't anyway as I get Panic attacks on them
Well the only thing that happened to me today is that Gissi nipped my Nose again and kept bouncing of my Leg because he wanted attention
Is that something nice do you think in Gissi's eyes?
Love you and miss you
@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
24 Jan 08
My husband called me to tell my our daughter is in a bad mood. It was nice that he let me know that she doesn't have her umbrella. The good news is the rain has stopped, so she should stay dry anyway.
@Sharon38 (1912)
• Jamaica
24 Jan 08
Boy this feels good to know that there are still respectful and honest people around. I be that made your day? I know it would ahve made mine.
Whenever I draft a letter for my supervior's signature and she says well done and thank you it gives me a very warm feeling inside so I try to let people know as much as possible how much I appreciate them. Even the guy I am now dating sometimes I dont see or hear from him but I send him an email or a few lines to his school to let him know that I appreciate him and encourage him because I know that it is not an easy task to be studying and working. so he barely has time for me but when he sees me he tells me how he appreciates my being understanding and patient. Some say I am stupid but I guess if that is so I am just being me.
@amberland (2)
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24 Jan 08
yea I have hard time with people cutting inline too. I cannot belive some people donot seem to acre they will just cut the line right infront of you and you become the one who has to say something and they seem to just ignore.
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@keepermykitty (2573)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
I didn`t get anywhere today but I get that often , now I am in a scooter and often can`t opern doors so whoever is there will take tha time and open it for me so yes I get alot of people helping me now , where as when I used a grocery cart to get out and about That was another story noone would help , mind you I looked as normal as the last person , so why would anyone help ...
But I agree there are decent people out there , they are hard to find most times ...
Thats the thing they are few and far between ...
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@GardenGerty (160696)
• United States
24 Jan 08
That is so nice. I still live in a place where it is not uncommon for people to let you go ahead of them in the check out line if you have a few things and they have many. For the most part people say please, thank you, and excuse me. Not so much the kids anymore, but the adults do. I cannot think of any specific example right this moment, but it does happen.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Isn't that just like a ray of sunshine? We are always letting people ahead of us in the supermarket, especially if they just have a 1/2 gallone of ice cream and our cart is full, but in truth there have been times when all I had was a carton of ice cream and if I think hard on it I realize that nobody every volunteered that I should go ahead of them. That won't change my behavior or make me feel bad, but it does seem rather strange.
With elevators it can be much like your street car situation, and I've never understood what people think they have to gain by trying to go in before the ones coming out can get out. It essentially makes everyone have to wait longer, including the me-first types.
The nicest thing about my day was not having to commute. Tomorrow we will go out to do some shopping, perhaps, but not at rush hour. :-)
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@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
It really made my day :) WHich comes to prove the the simplest things really count :):)
I"m like you in the supermarket. If I have a few cart and there's someone with just a few things I let that person go in front of me. But, like you, it's not often that the same thing is done for me LOL Not that it matters or changes what I do, but yeah.. I really hear you.
ANd you're right, people that don't allow the others to get of the streetcar or any public transportation are just really wasting everyone's time. But they don't seem to notice it.
Glad you didn't have to commute today. It's too cold to take my bike so my trip goes trough 2 buses and one streetcar although it's not that far from home to school.