My father loves alcohol and i hate it!!!
By mycharm88
@mycharm88 (2288)
Philippines
January 23, 2008 10:53pm CST
For everyone to know i love my father very much and all of my family. I don't wanna post this actually but it hurts to see that my mother is affected deep down and she just don't want to show it that includes the rest of the family. i just have to let it all out. I've been crying because of this so i need your help friends.. what should i do?
My father is a good man, he loved us too i know for he raised us well and provided us with enough that is needed, he taught us lessons of life,to be good to please God and to always choose to do the right thing. I could say that he is a responsible, loving and wonderful father and many of my friends would say that we're lucky to have him and i believe that it's true. He's been drinking since i was little but just moderate drinking and i admit sometimes he drinks more than his body could take but now it's geeting worse. He is now 55 yrs old and last 2years diagnosed to be diabetic. He lost a lot of pounds but thankfully with medication and God's blessings he recovered but i know he still has it. What i hate is that he still drinks specially last week and this week he's been drinking daily after work and would forget to eat dinner. My mom and the rest of my sisters long ago had been talking to him about drinking and how we love him and that we just want him to stop for his own sake but he would just say that "only God knows my fate, if He will take back my borrowed life then so be it" (i just hate this line)... we know that it will be hard for him to stop but he has to because we are all aware that he is sick.i guess he's happy with it and i don't know what else to do... last my night i could see my mom was holding back the tears. What should we do? What could be in his mind? My sister is getting married next month and i could see that he's drinking more... Pls. help me, i know my mom is tressed with this and i don't want her to be sick. We just want what's best for dad but he's refusing to believe it...
Pls. don't think that my father is bad, he is a good man and i would never want another father than him. But i just don't understand why??
5 people like this
5 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
24 Jan 08
I understand how you feel, I used to be like that but the difference is I'm younger than your father. I've stopped drinking too many, though I still drink but not that much anymore. I have suffered some UTI back then, I've stopped for about two years because that did scared the hell outta me. I drink on occasions, just a small gathering with my friends and then go home.
I think you're father is mature and wise enough to understand his consequences, it's a family matter that only you and the whole family can settle. Talk to your mother, your other siblings and discuss what you think is best for your father. I believe that sometimes, a person like your father is still looking for some enjoyment. Suggest him other things to do than drinking, ask him what he wants or why he does it.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
25 Jan 08
I'm so happy to hear that from you and i would like to congratulate you for such wonderful decision... For your own god you did the right thing dear, I'll take that advice from you... actually i'm really thankful for this.. keep it up and i'm proud of you. God bless dear friend c",) I hope and pray that my papa will be enlightened and find in his heart to change... tc
2 people like this
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Unless you can get him into some kind of program, it's not gonna work on his own. Once you become an acholic, you are always one. He has to want to stop drinking, even though you all want him to quit. It won't work unless he's willing though. You and your family can also attend some Al Anon meetings which helps family members cope with a family member that drinks. Be supportive, but keep telling him that he needs to stop and that it is hurting your mother as well as you and your sisters. keep us posted and God bless
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
25 Jan 08
Hi dear, thank you for your suggestion but would you mind telling me what are some "Al Anon" meetings? i'm not familiar with it. You are right, i know it's hard to convince him now, we already tried but i'm still not giving up on him. Thank you dear for your advice.
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
25 Jan 08
Thank you so much dear, i'm not sure if we have that here dear, but i sure will try to find help..tc
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
25 Jan 08
Al Anon is for the family members of an alcholic. That is a place where they can go and learn about the disease and how to handle it and to just sometimes talk about it when you can't talk about it at home. it's a really good program, you should look into it. God bless
1 person likes this
@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I'm so sorry you and your family are having to deal with this. My father in law used to drink a lot (before I even met my husband) and he had a wreck that messed up his leg. My husband said he would remember sometimes at Christmas that his dad would just be passed out on the couch from drinking too much. It's so sad. But he doesn't drink anymore and he's a great man. Your dad needs some help because he's not going to stop on his own. It just sounds like he is starting to drink more and more. You and your mom could talk until you are blue in the face but that's not going to make him stop unless he wants to. Maybe you can try to talk him into getting some help. I hope everything works out for you.
1 person likes this
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
I guess that's true my friend, my boyfriend's father was hospitalized because he was also a heavy drinker and a smoker, was just lucky because he was still young and his body recovered. I heard him say that he will never ever drink or smoke again, to my surprise now he's back to drinking again and smoking only it was minimized i'm just glad that my boyfriend don't drink and smoke. I'm so worried about my dad, we all are. Pls. do help me pray for things to work out. We'll try to find help. Thank you so much dear for responding..tc
@mycharm88 (2288)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
we are trying to be patient. Almost everyday i remind my dad how much we all love him thru text or just say it to him. you tc my friend and thank you.
@taran_2005 (122)
• India
16 Apr 09
Hi i hate this....
Next tyme when he drink, give me buzz....i will take care of it..
I mean its not fair ....i will not accept this...He should have courtesy to invite me ......if not friends.....:(
Its a crime to drink alone........
