Kids and child pregnancy

my daughter is 14 and she is not allowed to date either although she has had a few male friends, we will let her date when she is 16 (maybe) by then (and now) i would like to think that how she has been brought up will shine through.

y do u have so many children?

It's scary! And a scary world out there these days! (I call it the twilight zone!) I gave my kids lots of guidance and my daughter still got pregnant at 16! But what a blessing her daughter Chloe is now! Nine years later. And we all live here happily in this little house.. hubby and I and our 27 yr old son, and our 25 yr old daughter and her daughter. I'm very glad our kids did not rush out to live with friends in the world.. but they do get out lots.. they are strong common sense adults now, but the teen years are so shaky! I also found out that ironically, if one is too strict with their kids, then when they are of age or on their own, they may 'go nuts' and have little knowledge of the world.. thus, for example, when they try drinking may drink too much and thus put themselves in danger, which in today's world is grave danger indeed.. -It's hard to know how to deal with it all.. mostly I go with warning about the very real dangers out there and yes, group activities, etc, not lone dating or wandering off.. to always go about with a buddy, etc, and fight and scream like "h*ll" if anyone ever tries to grab them! [When I hear of young women off jogging in remote places by their selves, I figure they never watch the news or read a national newspaper, and of course when you hear of young people out drinking in the dark hours of the night, wandering around by their selves, or drinking too much, riding with strangers, etc.. I also cringe and can't believe it! Our kids won't be perfect, but alive and well is good!! I think our guidance does bear fruit. My daughter may have started motherhood early and is now a "single parent" but she was never "wild" and is quite down to earth now.. and we are very proud of her for not taking the so called easy way out and denying her child life.. - I've said a quick prayer for your children.. [that's the answer I found, and still rely on, prayer! Lotsa prayers! Yes, I do watch a bit too much news! but try to follow "why worry? pray".] All the best to you!:)

Well my thoughts strictly but I think the no hanging out or going to friends house is pretty strict. I mean they gotta go out and flourish with fun and good times... with friends. But I understand about you being worried and trying to prevent situations like that. Only if kids were being raised right now a days. Parents should really listen to the music they listen to, movies they watch or friends they communicate with. I mean you just gotta make them understand. The best and 100 percent absolute way of preventing teen pregnancy is waiting till marriage. I am one of those teenagers that are wating.

I think you are right in keeping a close watch on your kids. I'd be freaking out too if I had a daughter there in the US. I mean, getting pregnant at 13 or 14? They're practically babies having babies! I wouldn't choke them too much though, because that might trigger a rebellious attitude.

Hi...i am a girl, age 23 and engaged to be married next month...I am going to marry the man i had been dating for 6 years. But before him i had a boyfriend when i was still 13 and our affair lasted for more than two years... Very young to be dating...but before i started dating i talked to my parents wether I am allowed already or not and my father did allow me to, showing he fully trusted me but with rules and conditions. We can go out anytime but sure to be back before my curfew. Because of their trust I always put in mind never to fail them. I never engaged any premarital sexes with a guy though how long we are dating already for I always could still see in the eyes of my parents that they have respected me for never failing them. I think that is the best thing for you to show that you trust your girls always...Talk to them personally if ever you have doubts, but never let anyone hear your conversations and always keep a promise that it would just be for the two of you and their you would know all what they have been doing outside. And always tell them if they did something that dissapoints you...just be a mother to them. Never be the spy...they can sense that...