How to love? Please help me!

in a relationship, when you have accepted who he is, he's good or bad traits and still love him then it is true love. and when problem comes between the two people inlove, they talk things out and compromised each other. so i guess you two should have a serious talk, a heart to heart talk.

This is odd..that i read your post..as i have been married to my Filipina wife for 22 years..and we still quarrall and have differences..and a lot of time she does not want to talk to me..and we live together..but since I retired...i have been home a lot more..so she probably gets tired of me around so much as I used to travel a lot to Chicago and Kansas City, Mo. etc etc Now my wife went home to the Philippines and was supposed to say for six months..but she got very sick..lungs? flu? so every day I had to try to get hold of her via the phone or internet and in the island (Negros OCC..Bacolod area..sumat?_z) she was frustrated as we could not talk as the phone service is good to Manila but not to her area...finally she bought another house and had to move out of her brothers house..as there was no privacy..aw in the US we live always by ourselves...private house..no apartment..so she is used to being alone or much quiet times...she bought this house and her brother and his wife and four year old girl move in one bedroom and she took the other one with the A/C...so she talked for over an hour a day when she got a private phone...talk talk talk..but then she came home early with the sickness..and now we are back to square one..but i think she is happy...but this is life...what we get too freely we take for granteed..until we lose this..I hope I don't bore you with my silly story..but your boyfriend is OK..she has his ideas and you have yours..yes, love is not the question...the question is are you both mature enough to substain a suitable love? your maturity.. wow..my wife just told me Miss Michigan just won Miss America..she is from Flint, Michigan..not to far from here..i knew a Miss America as her father was my brother friend and partner..that was in 1988 and her name is Kay Lani Rae Rafko..now she is a Mrs...but I digress as my wife has that effect on me still.. You have to judge for yourself what your future holds as only you know what you are experiencing...sorry if i talk so much..this ..and I am a bad speller as my wife always beats me in Scrabble..you play this game and you will learn a lot of American words..you will become verbose..lol..this is verboten...(forbidden..German_(

first of all a question like this can only be answered by yourself and boyfriend and not a bunch of strangers on the internet. you to need to talk things out see if you really do feel the same way about each other, or if you just need a bit a time away from each other or not, that is the first step you need to talk without fighting and see where things are going .

hi twinkley, you know what my husband and I also do not agree in many things... we are the opposites... when i am happy he is sad.. when he is happy im sad... he loves veggies, i hate veggies... i love romance movies, he hates it... but we have one thing in common we love each other dearly... and we understand what each other wants... we compromise... we talk... it is not about your difference in life... you can be with each other just learn how to respect his needs... if he loves you that much, he should respect your decision about taking english... but listen to his advice also maybe he is right... try to see the advantages and the disadvantages of his advice... and if you really want to pursue your decision then try to make him understand... explain why you wanted it and always put him also in your decision... tell him that you agree with him but you need to study in order for you to work... be sweet and loving... and remember when he is mad dont be... a relationship is a give and take process... when both of you are mad you may go into something you will regret in the future... goodluck....