Sandwich generation

I am not a baby boomer, I am just a little younger but I think you are being a little too hard on yourself. You have a child and you work. You can't do Everything.you are there when he needs you.He knows you love him and I can tell you love him.There is just not enough time in the day.That's where telephones and email can help.You can connect with him while doing everything else you have to do. Suggestion.Pick a time of the day when you can just call to say hello.My mom and my sister would talk on the phone each week day at 4pm.It wasn't a long call usually but they touched base.

I'm not quite of the baby boomer generation, but I was helping my father out before moving out of state. Talk about guilt, I've been away from him for about four years now. He still had my mother and uncle there to help him out, but a couple of weeks ago, we found out that he has cancer and it's too far gone to do anything. Anyway, I know you're busy with life stuff, but when you get time, just pop over for a visit. You both will appreciate the time.

I was like you at one time, busy with my job, my daughter, as well as having my mother living with me. My parents divorced when I was 16, but became close friends after my daughter was born and remained friends. Fortunately for me, my father was always on the go. He called me every day and if he didn't, I called him. I'm an only child. In 2001, rheumatoid arthritis forced me to retire early. In 2004, at age 84, my father became ill with heart failure. In the summer of 2004, he came to live with me. Oh, he didn't want to, but I pleaded with him. I couldn't be in two places at one time. I lost him in October of 2004, at the age of 85. I miss him more than I could ever tell. Each moment I spent with him is just one more precious moment. You can't get back those opportunities. Make time for your father. You won't regret it.

I know he enjoys your company and that you talk more than just "sick business" when you're with him, and surely he understands how busy you are. Just be glad you have the opportunity to spend that time with him. I'm a thousand miles from my family and have to depend on the best sister and brother in the world to take care of our mom and dad when they need help. It's very, very hard to be away, too. I know that balancing that time with them has to be a challenge for you, but know that you are very much appreciated.