What Do You Do When You Receive BAD "Help"?
By lisaviews
@lisaviews (184)
United States
January 26, 2008 9:21am CST
Last night, I laid my head down on my pillow (I had been sick all day) and went into dreamland. When I awok, I thought I was in a fairytale... the family room was cleaned up! How thoughtful of my hubby!
Imagine the world of "Enchanted"... I was Giselle (singing "I've Been Dreaming of Love's First Kiss...") in awe, thiniking little critters were going to smile upon me (at least my husband) and be happy they helped... SCREEEEEECCCCHHHHH!!!!!!!!! Halt! The needle ripped across the vinyl....
The dream ended when I saw that everything everywhere had been piled up in another room, not in just one place, but all over. No items were put away where they should have been, but crammed into other spots, away from the room that was "cleaned up." Not that is NOT cleaning. That is NOT help.
This type of action just makes the room appear cleaner, and others much worse off than they already were. Even more, he moved stuff from my desk area and put it elsewhere! He put kid things on my sewing table! This is NOT help. This is a lot more work for me.
We've talked about this before. Obviously it hasn't helped. And so, now I'm faced with a (right now) dilemma... do I fix it or go back to bed and hope it was all a bad dream?
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4 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
28 Jan 08
Sounds just like something my husband would do. Fortunately I've got him to stop trying to "help". I had to tell him that help is no help if it is something I don't want.
When the same thing happened to me earlier...everything in the vicinity was dumped into a cupboard....it took me days to clear it out and put things back in the right place!
I'd say go back to bed and clear it bit by bit later.
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@lisaviews (184)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I could only wish! lol... his reaction when he knows it irritates me is to tell me I shouldn't let it get like that! Yeah, right! He should try it and do everything else that I do... and probably you, too! Thank you for your support and understanding.
@lisaviews (184)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I did... and two weeks later... I'm still clearing it up! Lol! I keep "finding" where he put some stuff. And then, he's still been doing it! NO matter what I say.
@schilds (410)
• United States
29 Jan 08
It could be worse. My husband decided once he couldn't handle the clutter in the kitchen anymore (Tiny appartment without even 1 drawer for silverware - and the washer and dryer were in the kitchen too) So he cleaned - by the time he got back from the dump we had 1 plate 2 bowls and a couple of spoons. He thought he was pretty clever until I went shopping to replace everything.
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@lisaviews (184)
• United States
7 Feb 08
LOL! That is way too funny! Thank goodness you were more clever than he...
@dopey22girl (3319)
• United States
26 Jan 08
Go back to bed and get some sleep because you're not going to do a very good job cleaning if you are tired! But I would tell your husband that while you appreciate what he did, he shouldn't have messed up the other rooms. He needs to know how you're feeling because communication is the most important thing in a marriage.
@lisaviews (184)
• United States
28 Jan 08
I do tell him, and he tells me that things shouldn't have been left there... Whatever! I went back to bed, and he kept calling and asking advice questions on "shopping." Ugh! Well, last night he puckered up and bought me a Big Mac! (I'd been craving one for weeks...) Lol! We communicate, don't get me wrong, he just doesn't like to hear what I have to say, and doesn't necessarily agree with me either.
However, the videos that could have been put directly away and were put in a pile (with other stuff) next to the phone... I put in his sock drawer. Maybe HE'LL get the hint... tee hee... Thank you.
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@kraziekara (54)
• United States
26 Jan 08
My husband does the same thing. He piles my mom's stuff, my stuff, garbage, kids stuff, and whatever else together. Another annoying thing is if there is a pile of clothes on the floor, they all get tossed into the dirty clothes, usually by the kids, and they get washed all over again. This morning I spent over a hour trying to fix these piles. Fun!
@lisaviews (184)
• United States
28 Jan 08
Yes, isn't it? I usually gripe about wasting money, as well. I can't stand to waste things... except time... lol! Thank you!
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