What if your significant other changed their spiritual beliefs
By sedel1027
@sedel1027 (17846)
Cupertino, California
January 26, 2008 4:06pm CST
and it was to something that you did not understand, conflicted with your beliefs or was just something you did not believe in? Would your reaction be the same if you were married? Would it make a difference if it was to a mainstream religion or to believe that they are otherkin with a different spiritual outlook?
I am just curious. My husband and I are both pagan for lack off a better term.I would not care if one day, after soul searching he decided to change his religion to another belief. I believe that it is his choice to do so, but I would not change to fit what he believes.
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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27 Jan 08
i am fine with it all as long as they do not expect me to change to fit in with them. I think belief is personal
blessed be
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
28 Jan 08
I am fine with it also as long as they do not have a religion that is bad for my beliefs. I can't be with someone who does not have good intentions, is what I was meaning also.
@dreamy1 (3811)
• United States
27 Jan 08
That's between him and his soul/god/higher power. I can't tell anyone else how to think or feel so they are completely free to change whatever beliefs they have. I don't have to understand what they do because each of us has different paths we must journey to find the "truth" on our own.
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@winterose (39887)
• Canada
27 Jan 08
my significant other is already a different religion than I am and I go to his place of worship, it would really have to be something that I found offensive to make it really matter if he decided he wanted to change. I am pretty open minded about these things
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@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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27 Jan 08
i hink your spiritual beliefs are your own buisness so i would not let a change bother me
blessed be
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
27 Jan 08
my person belief is there is no marriage in heaven..and the church i go to different from my wife's church..so we don't go to church together...that is up to her and that is something we are very much in agreement about...
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@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
27 Jan 08
I believe a persons religious beliefs are very personal and it is not up to anyone else to interfere. I might not agree with what someone else believes but that is between them and their God (whoever that may be) and that is who they are answerable to, not me.
@jennybianca (12912)
• Australia
29 Jan 08
It's hard to say how I would react if my husband changed his religion. Neither of us belong to any particular religion at the moment. I guessed if he became converted to a mainstream religion, & didn't try to push me into it, I wouldn't mind. If he wanted to be the same religion as his sister, which is very traditional, I would find that difficult as they have expectations of their wives that I would never agree to.
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
28 Jan 08
My husband and I already have really different beliefs (pagan and Christian). If he were to change to something I understood less, I would be supportive of him, to a point. If he suddenly started spouting "You're evil and need to convert" at me, or saying I couldn't involve my child in my religious activities, that would be a problem for me.
Actually, I think my biggest fear with my husband's religious beliefs would be if he went from his currently tolerant, low-key form of Christianity to being uber-conservative. Right now he's really accepting of my beliefs, but if that happened then obviously he wouldn't be. And if he suddenly started in with bashing GLBT folks (despite the fact he's bi himself)... well, that would pretty much be the end of the relationship for me.
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
27 Jan 08
This discussion seems to shoot right into my life, as I've changed my religious beliefs more than three times. I've been Catholic and I've been Jewish, but right now, I'd consider myself in limbo.
My husband is still holding fast to his religion (if you read my own personal postings, you'd get an understanding as to why I've left his church) and I respect that. So I guess this discussion is from a 180* point of view.
As I said, I respect my hubby's decision to stay with his church, but I feel that's causing a rift in our marriage. He continues to see things in what I feel is the wrong light, and he thinks I should come back with him.
Don't get me wrong, I still believe in Jesus and the whole nine yards, I just don't follow certain ideas and thoughts as my husband does.
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@cheapscake1326 (43)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
I would respect what they want, and i would try to see what made them change their minds about their beliefs.
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
26 Jan 08
If your Significant Other Changed their spiritual beliefs, I think it would be important to study up on the new beliefs yourself...that does not mean that you should suddenly try to change yourself. No it means that you should try to stay in tune with what is going on with your special person, and try to find out why they have changed and how they have changed.
If you drift too far apart without understanding, then you will lose each other. You do not have to believe the same way, but you do need to understand each other and know what makes each other tick so to speak.
It also never hurts to learn something new. One should always try to grow in knowledge everyday!
Shalom~Adoniah