Do Kids Grow Up Too Fast
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
January 26, 2008 4:58pm CST
When they start school early. I am not talking about pre-school. My great-nephew was in school before his first birthday. While he is very smart for his age. He is developing some bad habits at an age too early for it.
Last night, my sister who is one of his teachers at school was telling me how amazed she is with how sneaky and conniving he is(her words not mine). She said the other day he kept calling a bigger boy over pretending like he wanted to show him something. When the boy finally came over, my nephew snatch his toy and ran to the other side of the playground and then stopped to look back.
The better boy came over and beat him up and took the toy back. She says, it he wants a toy that another child has, he will go get another toy, and take that one to the child and try to get him interested in the new toy, so he can take the one that the child is already playing with.
She said, when he is not in her class, he will sneak over to her room and peak until he thinks that she is not looking, then he will start calling the other kids out of her class and telling them to come on. She says that she watches him out of the corner of her eye. All this and he will not be two years old until March 26th.
I talked to him on the phone the other day and he sounded so loud and clear. When He got off the phone I could hear him saying, moneeeeey, moneeeey, moneeeey. My sister said that he was sticking his hand in her pocket and then pulling it out and yelling moneeeeey, but there was nothing in his hand. Well, he sure knows where it comes from.
Now, I am not yet a mother. But my sister is the mother of a twenty year old and triplets. She is also a teacher for toddlers, so if she says this little one is doing to much for his age, I believe her. His mother started when she was two and she is just brilliantly smart. But all through grade school, she just kept messing up and getting in trouble. Her mother never allowed her to skip a grade and I think that she just got real bored and burnt out early.
Personally, I think that what he is doing is cute. I just hope he does not suffer like his mother did. I believe there is something to be said for learning too much too fast.
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6 responses
@SViswan (12051)
• India
28 Jan 08
Oh! Now you got me scared. My younger one will be joining a toddler group when he is 1.5 years old. My older son started pre-school when he was 3...but the school pushed him to nursery in 3 months (said he was already starting to write).
But the school I checked out for my little one (where I will be teaching too)...works on play most of the time...(especially for toddlers). I don't want him to be doing any academic learning...but social skills..yes. I think there's no "too young" for that.
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
28 Jan 08
Kids are smarter now...but that's because they are like sponges and take in everything around them. Now there is a lot more to take in than when we were younger.
But I don't care how smart my child is....smart alec replies don't go well with me!
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@SViswan (12051)
• India
29 Jan 08
I'm sure she will seeing how she's brought up 4 kids of her own.
Even though some of the things kids do are cute, I make sure I do not smile if it is something that is socially unacceptable. I don't want the kids thinking it is alright to repeat it. But I do enjoy it in private with my hubby. You can't help but smile at some of the things they do.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Jan 08
You are right. It is never too early to learn social skills. My nephew is only around people his own age at school. He needs to learn about sharing, curtesy and showing respect for others. He will catch on in time. As he gets older, my sister will be more strict with him.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
27 Jan 08
It sounds to me like he is a smart little boy and needs to be guided into doing good. He will need to be watched all the time. I had one like that and he drove me crazy. He was always doing something to get into trouble. He is so smart he was so board in school.
Good luck to his mother.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
27 Jan 08
I was smart for my age, but I was not a smart alec. Someone should tell him it is not right to beat up on older kids or take things that do not belong to him. It is not cute. He is not showing how brilliant he is, he is just being greedy. Someone should get him interested in doing something else. And since his mother did the same thing when she was young, maybe you should step in and show him how to be a good boy. Teach him to share and that it is not right to steal.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
27 Jan 08
He didn't beat up anyone, he got beat up for taking the other kids toy. My sister does not think it is cute. His mother is twenty years old and not very mature for her age.
I believe that the other teachers let him get away with a lot because he is my sister's grandson. It is only cute to me, because I have not seen him in five months and when you are in love, everything that person does is cute.
I would have to be use to being around him before I could discipline him. I will be the first to admit that I messed up with his mother. I was so interested in being a good auntie and giving her the things that I never got as a child, that I rarely ever really got on her case.
Now, when she doesn't respect me, I get mad at her. She was my first and favorite niece and could do no wrong in my eyes.
@cheapscake1326 (43)
• Philippines
26 Jan 08
Kids should not be forced to go to school at such an early age. Learning happens when kids enjoy what they're doing with other kids of their own age.
@vera5d (4005)
• United States
26 Jan 08
i call it the daycare brat syndrome...
my mom worked in a daycare & brought us with her when we were little.
the kids there were so mean.
i had to reluctlantly put my son in daycare for about a year and it taught him all types of behavior I don't approve of. but i think that's what you get when you let other people raise your kids. the kids learm a different defense and survival instict in those kinds of environments.
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