Do You Still Visit The Grave Of Loved Ones?

Hi Doll, I seldom visit graves. I believe that the deceased is not in that lifeless body that was buried. The body is just a house they live in while traveling their earthly journey. When their spirit leaves it's just an emply house. xoxoxoxoxxo

I can't physically visit the graves of any of my loved ones, because I live very far away from where they are buried. However, last time I was in Kentucky I visited the grave of my great-grandmother, and if I ever get back to California I'll definitely seek out the grave of my first love. I do other things to remember my lost loved ones, since I can't visit their graves. I think of them when I see something they would enjoy or have opinions about, I wear jewelry they passed down to me, I use knowledge they have given me. Every time I do a smudging of my home I think of my great-grandfather, and every time I find myself staring at a blank wall and creating a "movie" there I think of my great-grandmother. Every time I hear violin music I think of my first love, and every time I see a pretty church I think of an old friend. *shrugs* There are a lot of ways in which I remember, perhaps too much sometimes.

no I don't and I really feel guilty that I don't but I know she knows (my grandmother) that she will always be in my heart.

Again... this is a bit of a contradiction in terms... If we believe that their spirit and soul moves on... they are not in the cemetery... are they? If we believe in re-incarnation... or if you believe that you will see her again... she cannot be in that cemetery. I did love my grand-parents in the same way that you did love your nan. They did pass away almost 30 years ago. I cannot visit the cemetery... even if I wanted to... because I am on the other side of the world. But I think of them every week. I am with them in spirit... and I know that they are watching over me. If you believe in spirits... you don't need to go to the cemetery to talk to her. You can talk to her from anywhere.

The problem is that a grave should be taken care of and not to let it grow with wild grass and show negligence. Griefing for such a long time for something that will happen to all of us sooner or later, are the first signes of agin., I mean aging inside, spiritually rather than pay respects.

When I was in my country. I visited the grave of my grandma when it is all soul's day or the days that I thought about her. She was a loving mother and grandma. I felt sad that I wasn't there when she passed away. And I know she understood me.

I don't ever visit graves, and I'm not sure why. I do still talk to my loved one who have passed away, but most of the people I truly love in life are still alive.

Yeah, wolfie, I do it at least once in a year. There is a fixed day, April the 4th for the Chinese people here to visit the graves of their loved ones or ancestors and pay respect to them. There is a period of ten days before or after the said date for us to go to the cemetery. My husband, my son and I will visit the grave of my beloved dad and also the nearby grave of my mother in law as well. We bring along bouquets of flowers, fruits and place them in front of the graves.

My mom and them goes every year to the grave sites and I try to go to them when I have the gas to go I need to make it more.

Hi,there wolfie, I have the habit of doing that .every year at the birthday of my grand I will see her at the graveside to give her the good news happened to me and my family and shared my happiness and sorrows which I don't even tell with anyone else except my grandma. My grandma kept me company from the day when I was borth ,She knows me more than my parents do,I 'd like to listen to her account of the good old days in the past when I am not fall asleep then She would sang some supernatural songs that can make me fast asleep which I really appreciated during my childhood. Have a nice day.. Molly..

It is ok to visit your loved ones graves if it makes you feel closer to them. Someone has to take care of them. I know a lot of people that still go visit their loved ones graves, but I don't. My beliefs are that they are gone on to another place either Heaven or Hell and only their shell is in the ground. I don't want anyone coming to see me after I'm gone because I'll not be there, I'll be in Heaven with my Heavenly Father, my Lord Jesus and my loved ones who have gone on before me. If you can't come and spend time with me while I'm still alive, don't bother after I'm gone. I won't be burried anyway, I'll be cremated, so there won't be a grave. These are just my beliefs, and not everyone shares these same views. That's ok. That's why God made us all different. We don't have to agree or disagree. We are all entitled to our opinions. I hope I haven't offended anyone with my comments. That was not my intention. These are just my thoughts.

The only way I can visit any of my relatives is at various cemetaries. It is the only reason that I still live in this county. I do not like living here but if I left then there would be no one to tend their graves. I am my last living relative. I am the Matriarch of 5 cemetaries. Shalom~Adoniah