If you suspected

Well, asking straight out would be the first thing. My partner knew something was up during our first year together but since then I've redeamed myself. But anyway. The only thing you can do really is ask. Ask not only him but the people he usually works with or hangs around with.

You dont need to hire a P.I to have someone investigated...you just need to be creative...I personally would do some P.I work myself AND ask him straight up...BUT I'd have to be pretty damn sure of it in order to go that far...Keep in mind though that my husband knows if another woman piques his interest he's more than welcome to her, he just has to let me know first thats all....

That is also my problem with my husband. I suspected him cheating on me. What i did was to treat him in a nice way everyday. Cook him something he wants to eat,show that you care for him,and call him everyday through cellphone asking how are you? did you eat already? and so on and so forth. The next step will be to monitor what time he will leave and come home everyday. Know what his activities for the whole week.You will know what time he goes to work and what time he will be off from work is through his time-in & time-out that the company will sent him. If she monitored it and compared it to the time-in & out of the company,she will know if her husband is chaeting or not.I've been doing that after our marriage. Next step would be to give the husband a GPS for his car because she can monitor the previous destination of her husband. Once the husband forgot to bring the cellphone to the bathroom when he takes a bath,have time to browse on the phone book and messages,and previous calls. When you are in the bathroom leave the computer open for him to check his mails or go online on a messenger,then come out from the bathroom unexpectedly,i'm sure he will leave the messenger open and forget to close it.Then pretend that you will check on something,that way you can catch him. Its not advisable to confront a guy wihout evidences because they will always deny your allegations. I tell you that one time i caught my husband got online through yahoo messenger and when i come out from the bathroom,and checked the computer with our kid in the room,i caught him and told him,"is this your way of cheating me? Are you married or single? are you going to continuously live a life filled with your lies?,YOU cannot fool me or keep secrets from me,never!". I tell you,he never say something because i caught him and our son was listening to us. That time, i demanded him to open all his accounts on Yahoo Messenger as well as his emails. Theres no need to hire a detective. We can feel it when our husband cheat on us,even if you are at home. Tell her to Pray also and ask some more strengh,perseverance and that she will caught the husband. Lastly,always pretend to check his pockets when he come home and pretend to put his clothes to the laundry.She might find a piece of note on the pocket.

I won't want to confront him. If he has serious feelings or a problem with the mistress or lover, he will tell me himself.

Have a friend or a co-worker in a rental car or a car the husband won't recognize follow him around. I let a friend of mine borrow my car when he suspected his wife was cheating. The wife would recognize his car (obviously) so he needed one that would be unrecognizable and plain and easily blended in. I had a Toyota Camry at the time and those are a dime a dozen. Or just confront him and watch his body language. Watch for shifty eyes, fidgets or a voice that goes up or down an octive.

Hello there. Unfortunately, if you have to ask the question, then it's a good probability that he is cheating. Women have what you call a "sixth sense". It let's us know when something is not with our husband/wife/partner or what have you. I have been and done that so i know. I personally feel that if there is not trust, than the relationship is not going to last very long because in the back of your mind you will be asking yourself " where is he going?" or "who is he with?" and it's a terrible feeling not being able to trust the one your with. Sometimes it's better for the person mentally if they just left that person, hard but necessary. Best of wishes to your friend.

I would play detective myself and try to see if I could catch him/her in the act. I would see if anything was out of the ordinary or if pillows or his/her clothes had any kind of perfume smell that I don't wear. I'd also look at the cell phone bills to see if there were any numbers that weren't the "usual" numbers or if there was one that was called many times or that called his/her phone many times. Just stuff like that. Then after that I'd say something and when he said no that he wasn't cheating then I'd show some proof of what I'd found. They are going to slip sooner or later while you are playing detective.

I'd ask them straight out and see if they exhibit the common signs of lying, such as not looking me in the eye or dancing around the subject and saying things like don't you trust me? All of the common things that could mean cheating is going on. And then, if it seems like they are, I'd keep demanding that I know what is going on. It may take quite awhile, but eventually they'd have to give.

Yes, go right ahead and ask. Then you have to believe his/her reply. Otherwise, he/she will simply say "Why ask if you're not going to believe me?" You have to show him that you trust him, so that he will think twice before betraying that trust.

Personally investigate on her husband. Observe his behaviour and routinary job. Ask the people around his workplace. But this is hard. You are correct, hiring private investigator is costly, so better do the investigation yourself. This happened to me long time ago. Everytime I ask hubby, he always denied it. I prayed that I'll be given proof of his cheating. I saw kissmarks on his chest. Then I went to my hubby's workplace unannounced. I sit there in his table and inside the drawer I saw the lovenotes between him and his girl and read all what has transpired between them. I also see the girl there who's his officemate and I made my point that I am the legal wife. I confronted the girl and my hubby right there and made him choose between me and the girl. He had chosen me over the girl but it took a long time before our relationship recover.

That did happen to me with my second husband. I sent my daughter (not his) up north to visit my cousin. Then one day I asked my husband out to lunch at a restruant that we often went ton that had nice high backed booths, but where he still could not make a big scene without looking like an idiot, in front of folks he new. I told him what I new and I gave him the afternoon to remove all of his possessions from the boat (we lived on a sailboat) and he was never to set foot in the Marina again. It was not as graceful as that but he did move off the boat that day. He literally stripped it of all objects needed to run the boat, but I expected that and was very prepared to replace anything he took. It was worth it just to remove him. That was the safest way I knew how to get the job done since I knew he had a very bad temper. And it was better than being sneaky! Shalom~Adoniah

I had a spouse that was cheating but I was oblivious to it, even after I had someone tell he he was. I guess the first thing to do would be to ask him. She's going to want to examine why she thinks he is cheating and what evidence she may have. If he asks her why she thinks so she has something to reply with, and she might get logical answers, she might not. I gess the other thing she could do short of hiring a PI, is to have friends start watching him if they would. Check the phone bill, cell bill, ect. Other than that, I don't know

Hi phillygirl, I think it is always better to understand clearly before askng to partner directly. Always give some time to your self before coming to some conclusion. There is every chance and possibility of breaking your partners heart if he is not doing any cheating with you so pls wait for some time try to understand his attitude and behaviour first . If you find it wrong try to use some trick to ask him indirectly.