How do you divide the responsibilities of raising your child(ren)?

if you wanted him to help with feedings you could always pump milk and then bottle it so daddy can help too. my husband works too, but still helps, i have a 7yr old, 2 yr old and a 4 month old. during the week he works all day but come time he gets home some days he makes supper or helps me clean things. if hes too tired to help clean he at least sits and plays with the kids or helps my oldest daughter with homework (if she has any) to give me the time to get stuff done without chasing after kids too. when my baby girl was still getting up through the night (she now sleeps from about 10:30pm til about 7am) during the week i would get up with her. but friday and saturday nights he would get up with her to let me get them few hours extra sleep. he doesn't bathe my 4 month old, he says her squirmming so much makes him nervous shes gonna get hurt or worse cause he has a hard time holding her when shes all wet. so i bath her but he helps our son bath. just ask him to help a lil more. even if its just playing with the baby while hes home so you can get stuff done quicker or ask him to do a few extra things around the house. i'm sure if you tell him you'd like him to help with a few things he won't mind.

Wow, you could have been me 6 years ago! I felt exactly the same way. I was in the exact situation you are describing. I actually got a little resentful toward my husband, feeling like it was just "me and my baby" and my husband was an outsider. I got over it though. As the baby got older, my husband was able to bond with him more. Some guys just feel uncomfortable with the little babies, as if they don't know what to do, and maybe Mom knows best. Try handing him the baby to hold sometimes so you can take a shower or do something you can't do with the baby. Tell him sometimes just 5 minutes to yourself would be greatly appreciated. Try not to be resentful like I was, though. He's new at this, too! Listasaurus.com and MyBizLoop.com

yes, I can understand how difficul these months are, specially when taking care of a growing baby is so much important and time-consuming, not to mention tiring. Your hubby can of course feed the baby, prepare his meals (like mine used to do. I used to keep hot water in the flask and the cereal tin and he would just mix and feed), make the juice or even stay up part of the night. not many fathers are good at bathing babies, so you will have to give that a miss. but my hubby even played so much with our son, that he practically taught him to walk and talk!

In my case there was no dividing it....I was a single parent at first and after I met my husband it wasnt up to him (in my eyes) to really take a role in it since they arent his kids...Dont get me wrong, he loves them like his own etc and of course my kids are way out of the diaper stage etc but the bottomline/final say etc is mine and mine alone....To be honest with you I wouldnt have it any other way really..

Talk to him and tell him about your sentiments. Its better if you have an open communication to avoid deeper pains. Ask your husbands help in a nice way...i know he is upset too because your attention is now divided between him and your son. HAve time together and enjoy raising your little child!