I No Longer Care

Good for you!!! I made the decision a long time ago not to put alot of stock in what others said about me. If I had, I would probably have a whole different outlook on life. Only I know how I really am, what my relationship with God is, and what kind of person I am. It can get to me sometimes though. I went through a divorce in 2003 and the ex is still spreading lies and stuff about me. Some people choose to believe it, some come out and ask me for my side. Those that do ask, they had no idea what I went through for 15 years and are quite surprised. Funny part is.... if someone wanted to tell me what they think of me,,,, I'd probably spout off and tell them, "well before you do, let me ask you this, do you really think it's going to make a difference?" Nuff said!!! Be yourself, nobody else can!!!

you are so right. people these days worry way to much about what other people are saying about them, when they should really be worrying about what God is pleased with them or not. God is all that matters...what happens here on earth is only for a season, but God is forever. AS long as you are following Him and doing His will, what does it matter what other people say or think about you. I would much rather be talked bad about here on Earth and spend eternity in Heaven with God than to care about what people think about me and end up in hell. God is the only person that is never gonna talk bad about you, or leave you, or forsake you. God is always there and has unconditional love for each of His children and that is all that matters. thanks for sharing and God bless

Good for you my friend because I don't care either. They can say what they want to say too but please know that I do care about you :):)

Rozie my friend this discussion makes me wonder where it is coming from. Are you fed up with the world? Are you fed up with "friend" who you thought where friends or did you finally decided that the only truth is what you believe and what is inside you and your following of God? I hope everything is fine with you.

Hi,there Rozie, Yeah,I do agree with you,As for me I'd like to listened to others opinions , learned to behave at what others taught me to do ,and cared a lot of others attitudes towards me and doing everything in considertion of others thinkings.These are the things of the past as I find out I am too tired for doing that ,Why should I live for others ,why should others command my happiness and sorrows ,rather than doing that I have to command myself including my happiness and my sadness.I will let the key of the happy in my hand not in any others.So I made a decision that is "to live for myself,not to live for others"Life is so limit ,it is not worth us to doing such trifles.. I find out that to make everyone u have seen, everyone you have encountered with always say good to you always appreciate you,always do your own good that is a impossible gaol to achieve for We are not god we can't make everyone we company with will appreciate us,It is unavoilable that everyone of us have flaws that is for sure. Have a nice day.. Molly;-)

I agree with most of the things you're saying. I have a fairly small circle of true friends because I know they won't flatter me, but will rather tell me the truth in a loving way. I also know that I can go to them and be honest with them if I'm hurt or have a problem, and they will respond with love and concern, and most of them will pray with me (which I sincerely appreciate). I also can't stand it when people flatter--insult--flatter, etc. It is obvious they don't really love me for who I am. So ultimately, I go to the LORD, just as you said, for any love or affirmation I need. The LORD has promised us that if we put our trust in Jesus Christ, He will be there for us and help us grow into the people He wants us to be--and that is where true joy is to be found!

I really feel you Rozie on that note!!!It is a waste of time and its stressful.Like my grandmother said they talked about Jesus so you know they will talk about me.

I am with you one hundred per cent. I don't care what people think, either, unless they are true friends. The way I see it, if we lead a good life and to the best of our ability, there is no more we can do, so if somebody doesn't like that... tuff. We did our best, as they are, and it's best to avoid these people. They only drag you down and make you frustrated. You're going about things the right way my friend... keep doing as you're doing. Brightest Blessings.

I agree with you fully. You can't spend your whole life worrying about what people think of you because you will never please everyone. There will always be someone with somthing negative and petty to say. My sister has a teacher with this saying posted in her class- 'Great people talk about ideas. Average people talk about things. Small people talk about other people.' False flattery makes me sick too. You don't need to sugar coat stuff for me, you know? If you like me, great, if you don't, oh well. I won't loose sleep. Don't get me wrong. I don't want people to not like me, but I don't go out of my way to impress people either. I just try to live my life right and don't worry about anyone else.

Before, I can say I always cry a lot because of hearing those jokes that seems to be underestimating ones personality, receives bullies often times and I always resort to crying upon receiving those. And in exchange, so I try hard to be praised, I always do things that would pleased other. I remember when I was in high school, on my second year I was transferred to first class section, group were students are what they called outstanding. I never got a friend the first time. Seems like I got a contagious disease and it really affects my confidence. When I am asked to talk and to share my opinion in front of the class, my voice always broke and sometimes it led me to crying and I can't always help it. I just got friends, or say fake friends when they notice how they can benefit on me. It was when I was able to answer a question of my teacher that no one really was able. They are just there when they need something. I feel very cheated. But after sometime, maybe during the time I got tired of it, I have learned to love myself, and learn to reflect that I should not feel bad about how they treat me. That I should try to be just myself and do what I pleases myself so long as I know it will not hurt other people. And I feel good about it.