what's right and what's wrong when getting married
By ngatipikiao
@ngatipikiao (13)
Australia
January 28, 2008 5:13am CST
Hi all I have been engaged for 2years to a man I've been together with for 3 years, we met online he moved country for me and we have been happy ever since, my question is do people think that its ok to elope and not invite your parents, I asked my parents if they would come to my first planned wedding but was told that i would have to have my mum there as they have fish to attend to so my father would not be able to leave the country to see his youngest daughter get married that upset me a little as if i had to choose a parent it would have to be my father to give me away but anyway i did get upset an the wedding that i wanted was scrapped and at the moment all i want to do is elope and not invite either of my parents is that right or wrong? any help?
4 responses
@roberten (3128)
• United States
28 Jan 08
It is YOUR wedding, it is about you and your husband to-be, not your parents. Follow your heart and all else will be well. Lots of people have a private civil ceremony before the grand church wedding with family and friends in attendance. There is no right or wrong. follow your heart.
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
Since it is your wedding, you have every right to do whatever you please. It would have been better with your parents though. It is up to you right now, maybe you are just upset that is why you are thinking of just running away, etc... i sure hope you dont mean it fully... do you?
@mlhuff12 (797)
• United States
29 Jan 08
i agree...it is your wedding. i would say that it is ok to elope. then when you can find a date where everyone can get together you could have a reception for your family...if i was to get married and every single date i picked ended up not working out i too would get upset. but i would want to get married soon and not let it be drawn out. so i say go for it. you could also tell your family that you are going to elope. and if they want to be there they can so they have the opportunity of being there.
