what makes a person cheat?

In high school, cheating is a whole other story. I wouldn't consider being in a "relationship" and kissing another girl cheating in high school because you're still so young and just experimenting. So one relationship doesn't work out. It doesn't mean it will be the last one in your life! On the other hand, past high school and actually getting serious about relationships, cheating would be calling another guy secretly to make a date, or kissing. I know I wouldn't want my man doing anything like that behind my back and I would consider it all cheating.

I agree whole heartedly; cheating is merely yielding to the temptations of lies and deceit. Cheaters cheat for so many reasons other than the obvious, and this behavior is so very destructive. It is wrong on so many levels and should be avoided at all cost.

I might sound very harsh but I feel the fact is there is no excuse to cheating. They just blame it on every other aspect but their instinct and values. If cheating has to be associated with circumstances then why not all and every person cheat? Why do I do not cheat? Why do you do not? I feel its always complete mix up of values which lead to cheating. Nothing more, nothing less. Thank you.

Maybe he only want to make somebody happy or want to fix up the mistake he makes...

For me, people cheat because they feel like something is lacking in their lives. As is said above, it is a character flaw. We would always want more, need more. And if we cannot get it from our current spouses, then we look for it elsewhere. We can try to control it, but in the end we will always feel like we are cheating on ourselves as well. Cheating ourselves of an opportunity of getting something that is better than what we have right now or loving someone more. We would be depriving ourselves, and it would take a toll on us one day. We would face the rest of our lives with regrets of what might have been. Cheating is a really complicated thing to understand. The reasons for a person to do it are endless. Self-control may not always win out. Because there are tons of factors that affect it. We can only postpone ourselves, but never completely put an end to our desires.

After reading some of the responses, I have noticed LOTS of reference to guys being the cheater. I KNOW from personal experience that women are just as guilty of this as the men, no matter what the reason is. If the person who cheated got a taste of thier own medicine, maybe they would know how it feels. Or maybe if the person who got cheated on just wanted some revenge???-hmm. Would that make things even out?

i dont know i have never cheated before and never will i think its in the persons dna myself

Weakness inside him and his depression and helplessness ..can lead him to cheat or jealously any way its ultimately all are related to weakness that leads person to cheat..

There cannot be a single factor for making a person cheat. There would be lots and lots of factors combined together, to make a person cheat. His inborn traits, his enviornment, his compnay, his childhood and his negative but brave thinking will make a person cheater.

plain SELFISH!.. that's what i think. only thinking of what he/she wants - not thinking of the hurt that the partner might be going thru'.. to me it's best if you just end the relationship, if you're soooo not satisfied with your partner... or you think you 'can do better'... rather than cheat your partner into thinking that you are loyal to him/her. the most stupid excuse i've heard - "i didnt plan for it happen... it just happened" ????? if your heart and mind is in the right place - it wont just happen.. we expect too much from our partner.. they dont live-up to our expectations - we go astray and find comfort elsewhere? we expect too much from our partner.. them to change.. but we remain as we are - perfect? i dunno know.. relationship is not easy.. marriage is even harder... but you made that commitment to be loyal to your spouse.. each of us not perfect.. so if you think you're not happy with your partner - there is also a high possibility your partner is not happy with you, too... so do you expect he/she to cheat on you... ? no cheating... please...

In my own not so humble opinion only ignorance makes a person cheat because sooner or later those guys all get caught. It is just a matter of time. Greed doesn't make them cheat. Just stupidity. We all do stupid things from time to time and that is not a reflection on anyone, but cheating takes a special kind of stupidity.

To be honest with you, I don't know what would make a person want to cheat except to say that there are just evil spirits that put things in people's heads and make people feel that what they have at home is not good enough or not meeting their needs. Yes, I am a Christian, and I believe that it's not about being human. You can be human and not cheat. It takes commitment and true love and loyalty to not commit adultery. I can honestly say, and I am human, that the thought of cheating has never crossed my mind. I have always been very committed to my relationships and value them and take them very seriously. I don't believe that if you are just gonna go out and cheat that you need to be in any relationship. It's wrong plain and simple. people have lost all sense of commitment in my book, not all people, but some. What happened to the times were people were really in love and wanted to spend the rest of their lives with that one special person? The world is going to hell in a hand basket and to me it only makes me believe more that the end is coming soon. There is to much murder, cheating, violence, etc...going on for it not to be the end times. My husband and I are very committed to each other and have never even looked at another person with thoughts or intentions of being with them. We have a special bond, not only as husband and wife, but we are each other's best friends. i pray that people turn away from all of this and become committed to one another again. thanks for posting and God bless

Hey well it that they usually are missing some think that some one alse seems to be able to give them.

When it comes to cheating. If you or your mate cheats than why are you with them. For if you want another why be with the person you are with.

Infact i feel its the situation that makes a man to be a cheat.It can be all because of the fear of truth.But this is not always the case.there are many who do it consciously and what they fail to understand is finally they will have to make a heavy pay for it.and then there is no use even if you repent.

That is one bundle of a good discussion and a response together.

I agree. I wish I knew myself why people cheat. I know I never have but I have been cheated on a few times. I feel like if you are going to cheat on someone why get involed with them.

Some people cheat because they are looking for adventure or for something better than they already have. For others, it's merely because it is their nature to have multiple partners.

A person gets to a certain stage to where he is comfortable, and I think that when he reaches this stage, there is a natural desire to be greedy, or to reach out for more!

It is our nature to want more, but when a person looks outside of the relationship, they aren't saying they want more... they're saying they want different! Wanting more can apply to the relationship a person already has, to making it stronger, happier, to spending more time with their partner, or to adding excitement with travel, etc. 'Wanting more', to me, is just as lame as the 'only human' defense. Human is the best there is that we know of for sure. We shouldn't allow it to be used as an excuse for bad behavior.