when should i talk about my past?

Just keep your past statched away, unless you have physical evidence like a scar on your forehead, a child you begot before you met,and any other observable sitations that call for your explanations-otherwise, keep your past to yourself

Well there is no rush, because this type of information is very delicate, it may be given too soon, or sometimes too late, I would just try to take it as natural as I can, and let time build the foundation that is necessary for a strong relationship!

There is no set time really....IF/WHEN she feels comfortable enough then THATS the time to share and how much is TOTALLY up to her..She could share the basics OR she could share all of it OR she could do it in stages.....Only your friend has the right answer for herself..

I think it should be done with caution. I must say if it is needed at all. I would say, until and unless the current partner ask about it and also insits. then also one should tell in superficial nature, not in details. You must be faithful too.

i think she should do it whenever she feels comfortable. I get that she doesn't want to scare him off but that just means she shouldn't carry on about it and just let him know that she has been hurt or misled before and wants to know where she stands or what she expects. i hope this has been of some help, if he loves her he will be happy to impress her.

for me, as long as im willing to live my present and future with the one i love, i should open up my life and everything about my past.. i dont want any memories from my past to ruin what we have just started.. in a relationship, i dont want to hide secrets because i believe that creates a big cause for quarrels.. i mean, my partner can tell about his past too.. im willing to listen to everything he would say.. i want to do the best for our relationship, and il make it sure that there's nothing that can destroy us and no one can set us apart from each other..

Well I will say that lucky are the very few people who have both a friend and a boyfriend and while I wish you to be amongst those few, caution impels me to say that at this point share nothing about your past. While having bf is but natural, keep it as normal and as superficial as possible. Don’t go into the details of each relation and don’t expect outright sympathy. See a person has to really know you before offering his shoulders without any questions, right! So give that time to your relationship. And whatever be the situation, don’t ever be judgemental. Don’t try comparing situations with past experiences. Keep an open mind, be diplomatic and hope for the best.

first of all if there is so many unsuccessful relatonships i think id back off. unless your her therapist she really doesnt need to disclose this information unless willingly. Sometimes i think the past is where things should stay,,, it prevents us from moving forward and enjoying the rest of our lives!

It all depends upon how serious she is about the relationship. i dont' think that she needs to say anything about her past at all if she isn't asked. there is no need to volunteer information if he/she's partner doesn't require the information.

She should share nothing ever. It is none of the present boyfriend's business and it will only give him one more thing to be unreasonable about later, when she most needs him to be reasonable. If she has had some overwhelmingly good reason to be traumatized in future relationships by what happened in past ones, that is just a good reason for her to hold off of getting involved with someone new. Also if her present boyfriend is pressuring her for information about her "past" she should drop him like a topn of lead, NOW! That is my opinion.

it is kind of asking for trouble to expose your dirty laundry to anyone..then they will make a judgement call or hold this information afainst you..I married a virgin and so far I know this to be true..but saying that I don't think it would hurt our relationship after 25 years if I found out something about her past...but at one time..when we first started seeing each other in Tokyo, Japan...I was very jealous but soon learned to trust my asawa..faith in your relationship takes a lot of living

You can tell your past and other relationship before the onset of your relationship. If he will understand, he's for you. If he will not, he's not for you. Don't hide your past and expect to have a right relationship. In fact, if you hide it, it is doomed to fail because you are hiding something.

She shouldn't pour out everything at the beginning of the relationship... usually, it takes time for trust to grow, and there will be signs when the time is right to talk about a particular subject. Past relationships are just that... in the past!

I just think she should tell him the trueth at the beginning if he cares it a lot...

to have another relationship with another to make it right i guess is not good..she must evaluate herself on what went wrong on her past...but if its her way to forget the past then so be it..it depends if the present bf likes to know.. since honesty is a good way to start a new one and hope the boy also treat her that way(being honest)..

It depends on what type of past she had. It is all right for someone who had not slept around, as we say, with the whole football team, to say "go ahead and tell him, he will understand," because he might not. Even if she had s*x with two to six other people, he might not understand that either. And then it depends on whether he wants her to continue her former immoral behavior - i.e. swinging, so what I go by is if he knows she has a past, she should tell him that she lived a life she was ashamed of. But he does not have to know if she had an affair with one man who broke her heart, or was really spreading herself around. Usually if he loves her, and she starts to tell, he will stop her.

I don't think that she should tell the person as soon as she meets them. But, I feel that there is a right and wrong time to do everything. I believe that a person knows instintively when the time is right to bring up the past. If the time does not feel right, she should wait.

Through my experience, I have learned that telling a boyfriend about your past and all the details doesn't go well especially if it is a bad past. They tend to be judgemental and treat you differently. They also tend to use it against you in future arguments. Even though it may seem hard to tell about your past, I found it was worth it in the end. If a guy can't understand that its ur past not your present or future, then he isn't worth anymore of your time. A guy who can realize the past from the present and not judge you based on your past actions, is the best kind of guy to find! Good luck to her! Hope her boyfriend is understanding.

When she feels comfortable with the person. Some people can share right away and that's fine. I don't mind people I first meet talking about their past. I want them too because that way I can get to know them more and learn about their experiences.

Hi, I think the she should keep her past private. Unless there is something she really needs to share with him, I don't see the point in re-hashing old news. It's really noone's business but hers. Hope her new relationship is successful!