Is my cat ever going to like me or at least be friendly?

Ha ha your cat hates you! Just kidding. Is he an older cat or a kitten? If he's older maybe he just needs time to get to know you, it's only been a week that's not a long time. I've never had a cat, don't like them really I like dogs much better. I'm sure he will get to know you and like you in time.

It's really tough. When I first got my cat he was only 10 weeks old. Very playful. I'd hardly ever get him to stay still and stay with me in a room. Plus, he was new to the surroundings and me and all that stuff. When I took him to the vets for the first time, he wouldn't leave my side. He was very sleepy after all the shots and laid on my bed with me just sleeping. It was so sweet. If i got up to go to the bathroom or something.. he'd follow! I'd feel so bad. I couldn't leave him! Now he's my little boy. When I come to bed, he follows. He's at the door when I come home. He's always there. It rarely starts out like that. You've got to give him time and while I understand that you want the companionship, it's not instant. I know other people have said this and I think I have too.... It's like any relationship, you can't just dive right in. You've got to give it time. If you want that instant connection... you'll almost always be disappointed, especially with a cat. Plus, you don't know what he went through before coming to you. You've gotta let him be him and give in. Pushing him is not going to help anything...you or him.

"One only understands the things that one tames," said the fox. "Men have no more time to understand anything. They buy things all ready made at the shops. But there is no shop anywhere where one can buy friendship, and so men have no friends any more. If you want a friend, tame me . . . " "What must I do, to tame you? asked the little prince. "You must be very patient," replied the fox. First you will sit down at a little distance from me--like that--in the grass. I shall look at you out of the corner of my eye, and you will say nothing. Words are the source of misunderstandings. But you will sit a little closer to me, every day . . . " "It would have been better to come back at the same hour," said the fox. "If for example, you came at four o'clock in the afternoon, then at three o'clock I shall begin to be happy. I shall feel happier and happier as the hour advances. At four o'clock, I shall be worrying and jumping about. I shall show you how happy I am! But if you come at just any time, I shall never know at what hour my heart is ready to greet you . . . One must observe the proper rites . . . " this is from my favorite book "The Little Prince" be patient my friends....it takes time...

Well remembering the background of how you got Snooky it just may take time. I can't help but wonder if he may have been a "feral" cat. If I remember you said the woman that gave him to you said he was maybe abused?? And she kept him in the basement or something? If he was both abused before the woman took him in, and feral to boot, it just might take him awhile to get used to human companionship...just be patient...it might turn out to take a whole month before he starts to really trust a human.

I've tamed wild cats since the age of 14 and I'm 50 this Friday Feb. 1st. It has taken a couple of months to a year for a cat to come around to me. After the cat decided it might want to be my friend. Don't rush it. It was a year before my current cat played with toys. I thought he would never care for them. He mostly likes paper bags and plastic bags from the store. It was a year before I got him to retract his claws when I pick him up. Some cats don't like treats, be thankful, they cost a lot and unless they're hairball control or teeth cleaning, aren't anything but lots of extra money for nothing anyway.

Give it time. Cats are independent creatures. And that means it has to be their idea. We have a cat. We love her. She isn't friendly. Accept on her terms.Which means when we hit the bed for the night so does she. She snuggles with my hubby mostly. And has actually bitten one of our friends. I know this may sound strange, but try ignoring him. He may wonder what's up and then the tide will turn. Good luck and happy petting.

You just have to be very patient. we got our kitty when she was almost grown. she is now about 2 years old and is just now getting to the place where she will sit on my lap once in a while. she does let me know when her water or food dish is empty by butting my leg. She doesn't like closed doors . She will push the bathroom door open if it's not latched. just give him time. A week isn't very long after all he has been through. Your not doing anything wrong.

It is a long process Sweet But you are getting somewhere as you say he does come to you sometimes and rubs himself up your Legs which is a sign of affection He has to make sure that he can trust you and you have to help him get that assurance from you by being patient and not giving up on him and talk to him all the time He will come round It took me 8 months to have Gissi fully trusting me and other People that would come to visit and now 2 years later he loves everyone lol Have patience

Cats like to play, and they also like relationships to be on their terms. This may take a bit of research, and you've only had him for a week. This guy's being cautious. Notice that when you're being really communicative, on his level, he gets a bit friendlier? Remember, you're King Kong size to him. The cat version of "warm and fuzzy" probably isn't some huge human they don't know too well. Find something he likes, preferably moving, like a piece of string, for a new toy. Few cats can resist a moving target. They really like pouncing. You can also try giving him some of your food, like leftovers, that's a sort of common language, sharing. Something nice and comfortable for a bed is another good expression of caring. Really good sign, from experience, is a sort of chirrup. It means "Hi, howya going?" If he starts making that sound, make a big fuss of him, and that'll bond you. After that, you're promoted to Honorary Cat, so your social status is also taken care of in the neighborhood.

You should have bought a kitten... and it would have been all over you like a rash. lol Because he is an adult cat... not only he needs to get use to you... but also to its new house and environment. This could take 6 months rather than 6 weeks. Cats hate changes. I have just been away for 7 weeks with my cat... and during the whole time... he knew it was not his house and would not stay inside. You just will have to be patient with him. Don't waste your time calling him. He will come to you when he is good and ready. He will become your friend for the sole reason that you are feeding him everyday. Not all cats play with toys. Mine don't. Cats are also very fussy eaters and you need to buy them a variety of food... or they get bored from eating the same thing all the time. Make notes of the ones he likes and the ones he don't.

Is your cat fixed? YOu know take the man parts away. My cat was like that until I took his manhood away. Now he is a mellow cat and loves attention. He has his days though were he is grouchy though. Youve said youve only had him a week so maybe he just hasnt gotten use to you yet. Give it a couple more weeks and he might come a little closer. We have my cats food and stuff in the bathroom and I think he thinks that is his territory cuz whenever me or my husband go up to use the bathroom our cat isnt far behind. We think he thinks that we are gonna eat it food or something cuz thats right where he goes is to his food to check up on it.

You didn't mention if the cat was feral or abused. With feral cats and, to a point abused cats, patience is the key to them warming up to you...eventually. Tigger, who's my avatar, was feral when I got him at 4mo. of age. His rescuer thinks he may also have been abused as well. He stayed in the spare room for 2 mos. with me constantly just going in there and sitting down to talk to him in a soft voice. In due time, he would start coming out of his box that I set up for him to hide in. Now he demands to be held alot and cuddled but yet isn't a lap cat nor will he snuggle when I lay down. He's a year old now and I still see lil changes in him every day for the better.

I have the same probl;em wioth my husbands cat. we have two cats, Sierra is mine and Sasha is his. And I do mean she is his. She wants nothing to do with me and goes nuts everytime i try to pick her up. Yet I've noticed she has begun to follow me all over the house. She will go into the laundry room with me and beat me up the steps and watch for me to finish climbing. but I better not try to pick her up. Give your kitt time, he will come around. Jusat as I believe Sasha is beginning to with me. She was his birthday gift over a year ago, he picked her out from the local shelter.

He may not like the treats. You have to try several ones to see which one he likes the most. It sounds like he isn't very fond of people in general right now. Depending on his age, you may have to "teach" him to be social. Hold him for a few minutes. Softly petting him in the "cat" places. (chin, ears, and back near the tail)Even if he wants down, do not let him until you are ready. If he fights you then talk softly to him while doing this and then istead of allowing him to jump down and away, gently lower him to the floor and give him one last pat from the head down the back as you are letting him down. Tell him he is a good kitty etc. He will learn that being petted is a good thing. If he ignores you, then ignore him back. Pet him while he is eating so he knows it is ok for him to have his food and be petted at the same time. Some cats take a little bit of adjusting to thier new owners. You have to give it more time.

I have a 5 year old male cat that I have had for about 3 years now. When I first brought him home he would have NOTHING to do with my husband or myself. He lived under the bed and came out to eat only when we were not home or asleep. After about 3 weeks my husband could get him to come out from under the bed for a petting as long as I was not in the room. After 3 months he finally worked his way up to wondering around the house when we were home, and he would let me brush him but NO petting. Then one night after about 4 months I went to bed without my husband and was just laying there reading a book. Omi just jumped up on the bed, walked right over me, turned around a few times and then snuggled onto my belly to go to sleep. We are talking about a 15 lb cat, so he was a little heavy for sleeping on my stomach, but there was no way that I was going to move him. I just layed there hoping my husband would come in the room and see this! That cat has been my little snuggle buddie ever since. He meets me at the door when I come home from work, and wherever I am he has to be in my lap. You would never know that the cat had pretty much ignored me for 4 months! Hang in there, your kittie will come around when he is ready to.

Some cats are so amiable and others more aloof. my friends have a cat they rarely see, it is always hiding in the linen closet or some other dark place... it does sound like your fellow is at least somewhat affectionate - I think there is hope for him yet. maybe some tuna fish scent on your clothing will bring him around, hahaha... if you could stand it!

Hi, Yes, it's deffinitely too early. Even with my darling kitties, over the years, we grow closer. Like Sylvie, when we adopted, she only liked to be pet. But she didn't like to be picked up or anything else. She is also extremely skittish with anybody who isn't with her all the time. But over the last few years, she has started coming to rest on my lap, and believe it or not, now drapes herself around my neck, purring! It's so sweet and lovely. But when even my sister from out of town visits (and has many times) is so scared. Any of my weekly students come, she is hiding! Every cat is so different. Other cats who have been wiht me, have loved to be held and hugged. If you moved into a new house with a new person, would you bond and hug and cuddle with them after just a week? Good luck, and I look forward to some happy feline updates! ;o)

Yes he will, it will take some time,when hes in the kitchen he's prolly just checking you out and the surroundings,give him some time and he will become yur best friend. I once had a cat that hid under a chair for weeks,I thought ok if this is how its gonna be,fine,a week later he came out, And was my best cat for 18 yrs,and my best buddy lol, GOOD LUCK!!

give him some time. one week is not really that much time. we had a cat that took a month to get used to things so continue to be patient and talk to him try different treats pet him as much as possible and u will see that those times will be more and more.

My friend had two cats and one of them was very affectionate.He always wanted attention and was always around when you needed him.However,her other cat was the complete opposite,he used to go over the road for food,was always away for long periods of time and had a very moody personality when he was around.I don't know if it is just personalities in cats,or he was jealous of his brother!Maybe your new cat just has to get used to and the new surroundings.