If a person is about to get married, should they throw away old pictures of ex's
By crazylife
@crazylife (855)
United States
January 28, 2008 11:04pm CST
If a person is about to get married or if a person is already married should they throw away or burn old pictures of ex boyfriends/girlfriends, and why do men keep pictures of they ex girlfrinds, is it because they still have feelings for them?
4 responses
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Well, I still have pictures of ex-boy friends and my husband still has photos of ex-girl friend (they were going to be married), but that does not bother me. They are just photos of the past. I am secure in my relationship and I know he won't cheat on me. (Besides he knows I totally lose it if he did.) I guess the best way to put it is that I am in love with my husband. I loved my ex's (notice the past tense). They are a part of our lives and what made us what we are today, but that doesn't mean we still have feelings for them. This June we will be celebrating our 12 year anniversary.
@crazylife (855)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Thanks so much for your respond, you know what I never really looked at it that way, thanks for helping me understand, and happy anniversary, I know it is a little early, but happy anniversary agian, and thanks.
@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
31 Jan 08
Thank you for the early congrats! You are offically the first person to wish me a Happy Anniversary. :)
@mscongeniality (110)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
what's the use of keeping them? they were just a memory of the past and should be bury from the past. this will only be a start of a fight or a neverending jealousy on the part of your spouse. there is no reason for keeping those pictures or even letters if you really move on on your last relationship and that you really love the person you married.
@mscongeniality (110)
• Canada
29 Jan 08
well, maybe i am just a jealous person. sorry for that but that's how i feel.
@crazylife (855)
• United States
29 Jan 08
That is true, I know people who got into arguements because of pictures of the ex, yes I know that they are apart of your past and what not, but if you really moved on why do you need to keep they picture, you will always remember them because they were apart of your life at one point, but the memories why always stay in your head and you will always remember the way they look so why do you need to keep they picture, some people even got a divorce over stuff like that, anyhow thanks for your opinion
@crazylife (855)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I agree, but if you are married and your spouse have a picture of an ex that he/she loved and was going to marry wouldn't that make a little upset that your spouse still have he/she picture. Thanks for responding
@subha12 (18441)
• India
29 Jan 08
I think it matters from person to person and from relationship to relationship. its not always the case with all. If your current spouse feel bad, then you have to get rid of them. May be we can get rid of those material things, but can we get rid of memories associated with that person?
@crazylife (855)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Good point we can't get rid of memories that we have with the person, thanks for replying
