Are you scared of commitment?
By ArmyChick
@ArmyChick (488)
United States
January 29, 2008 5:19am CST
If so, why? and how do you know? Personally, i feel that its a part of the growing process so for me its easy. Then again, i am a female. But men and women, are you afraid? What makes you so scared?
3 responses
@piatos03 (393)
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
I was never scared of commitment before. I used to love being in a relationship and having some you love take care of you and you will do the same thing for them. But now I am.
I have only truly fallen in love once. It was a pretty great relationship for me. But all good things must come to an end right? This one did. A bad break-up. And now, I don't know if I will ever have the heart to fully commit myself to someone else. I gave that last relationship I had my all to the point that there was not much left for me. Stupid, I know, but I really thought it was going to last.
So now I'm scared of being committed. Because what if they leave again, and I'm going to feel this pain all over again. I like someone right now. But I don't give them the chance that they deserve because of my own insecurities and because I still think of and remember my ex at all times. I think I will always feel like I'll be cheating on my ex if I go into a new relationship. Sigh.
@akacipher (64)
• India
29 Jan 08
Hey Please dont let your past stop you from doing anything for your future. Sh*t happens in life, i dont know your story but then i can make out that you have had a break up and that now its time to move on. The only way to make all this less concrete and binding on you is by actually looking beyond your past. U gave all you had to the relationship but still break up happened so probably he lackled something, thats not your problem. You are in no way cheating on him if you like someone and move on with him!! Past has happened, now its time for you to serach and make a future.... please dont do it to yourself. If you move on then you are in no way cheating on him but if you be like this then you are cheating yourself for sure..... its not fair for you!
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
9 Feb 08
I think I didn't have much of a problem with commitment. Of course, that was before my hubby walked out off our fifteen-year marriage. I am still committed to our children but it seems I now have a problem with "dating." I guess it scares me that any relationship has a possibility to end. That's just me though and somehow I will get over it. One can only hope.
@akacipher (64)
• India
29 Jan 08
I am not scared of commitment, i dont even know what this 'Scared of commitment' thing is. I fell that commitment comes automatically in a relationship you dont have to tell yourself that you are commited. so if commitment comes automatically and unknowingly then you dont even realize when you are commited to someone and if you dont realize it then how can u be scared of it. saying that i am scred of commitment is just another way of saying i dont love you (so as to spend my life with you). I must say commitment is a beautiful feeling..... so dont be scared of it.
