divorce cases are increasing these days - can we make a marriage work

I think for some cases you are right and that people are selfish; but I think for those people they probably got married for the wrong reasons in the first place. I think other people married people they loved but for what ever reason it just can't work out. Maybe one partner turned violent or just plain ignorant or something. I would never stay with a partner like that and I dont' expect anyone else to either. I think leaving and standing up for yourself is a better example to your children then staying with it and being treated badly for the rest of your life and the children too. So I think sometimes divorce has to happen. Un the other hand I do think to many people don't take marriage or divorce seriously enough.

One year ago I started to live with my boyfriend, first it was great.. But then we had serious problems, we would fight so much that we wouldn't talk to each other. But then, one day we agreed that we have to solve it if we want our relationship to work out. It wasn't easy, but we really solved everything. We don't fight anymore. I think, if people love eachother, they should talk about everything what is bothering them. Every problem can be solved, that is the reason why I think that we can make a marriage work

slight misunderstandings is not the reason for most divorces, most people who divorce have really good reasons like that can no longer live in the same house together without arguing and fighting all the time and this is not good for the children, it makes then nervous and afraid and teaches them the wrong things about what a marriage is supposed to be about, some children grew up to be adults who are afraid to get married after seeing how their parents marriage turned out.

I think that if a marriage is OVER its OVER...there is no patching it up...and why force a child to live in that sort of environment?? There was no way in hell my ex and I (back then) could have lived a happy life together, there were too many issues and too much tension..to suggest that I stay and FORCE my kids to stay is way out in left field..that does more damage to the children then leaving does! In fact the reason I left was FOR MY KIDS..I wasnt goin to have them grow up in a house where there was nothng but arguements between mummy and daddy and tension so thick you could cut it wiht a knife....End result? My kids were much happier, I was much happier and my ex and I finally became great friends for the last few yrs of his life which was ideal..

I feel sometimes the whole family is better of if the parents split up. I know it seems wrong to you but if the parents fight all the time what good is it to the kids? My mom was unhappy for years when she finally left my dad us girls where not supprised. I hated their fighting and all the times mom would blaime us girls for her unahppiness. I think us girls are to blaime for all of moms unhappiness no matter where mom was. Ask mom she will tell you it is her daughters faul. LOL

If it's a slight misunderstanding, it doesn't cause divorce. It's the big misunderstandings, constant arguing, mental abuse (if it's an issue), among other reasons. Staying in a marriage for the kids sake is the wrong reason to stay in a marriage, that is worse on the children's mental and emotional well being than divorce is. Been there done that, and when we finally divorced my daughters were less upset by the divorce than by us staying together and arguing all the time, that is not to say divorce is easy on anyone.

I am committed to my children. I love them more than anything else in this world. However, I don't love their father and we could not work things out. I could never be with him again. I do believe that staying together is the ideal thing if there is no abuse, whether physical or mental abuse. But, sometimes things just don't work out. And if people stay together just for the kids, it usually isn't a happy home. Kids would rather be FROM a broken home than LIVE in one. Just my opinion :-)

I am separated and all i can say is that separation is never easy. I won't presume to say that its selfish since each case is different. But one thing i am sure of in most marriages that has been broken is that the differences are NOT SLIGHT. However in my case, my marriage would have remained intact if i am willing to loose my self respect, be unhappy for the rest of my life & be okey to be treated like a doormat. Each has their own cross to bear and journey to undertake. Bottomline, is that we all want to be happy and sometimes kids, are happier when they no longer see their parents quarreling and would grow up healthier. It's a matter of making the situation work for you and the kids after the separation or divorce.

I think, and know from my own upbringing, that it's far more damaging for parents to stay together if they are miserable together than it is for the parents to separate. I was a much more balanced child after we left my dad than I was when I was living in an unhappy home.

I'm not a fan of today's easy out divorce. I think too many people get caught up in the "I don't want to do this anymore". Personally, my husband and I have worked through so many situations that most couples would have just given up on. Both of us watched our parents divorce when we were young, and decided that there would be no easy out for us. Granted that is alot of hard work, and many people are just too lazy to work hard on their marriages.

yes, I hate misunderstanding, but I cann't go apart for aa slight misunderstanding...I am too serious to live together with my partner, so I often try and patch up things for enjoying our kids.