fell for my bestfriend
By loudhummer14
@loudhummer14 (535)
Philippines
January 29, 2008 11:50am CST
i recently discovered that i have been long in love with my best friend for 11 years. we've been through with different partners already but i noticed that as i was starting a life with someone, i always end up comparing her with my best friend. same goes for her. i feel that we both share the same feelings but are just afraid to act upon it. right now im so confused. i dont know what's the right thing to do. shall i take a step back, walk away, just go on keep it inside or shall i be brave enough to ask her to take the next level with me? would it be worth it?
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8 responses
@Mondoh (147)
• United States
31 Jan 08
What ever this is among us, it is not a dress rehearsal!
Quit Talkin', start Doin'...If U have film, I'll watch...
Either one of U gettin' younger?.. I didn't think so...
(Think Kinison Oh, Oh, Ahhhhh!)
Remember that face if U don't let her know how U feel...
AC
@Mondoh (147)
• United States
8 Feb 08
Was going over the discussions I've responded 2 & came upon this...
Didn't mean 2 shut down the discussion, UR not the first person in this position.
Hope U haven't done anything 2 rash, like "telling U how U feel!"...
If ya'll R still friendly & all...go here:
http://www.doubleyourdatinginfo.com/e/11149/attractionbook/
By letting her know U "like" her, U R givng her all the power in the relationship, & suddenly, UR not as attractive anymore...
Turn the tables, from now on, B busy... B polite. "Hey, glad U called! Listen I gotta run right now, I'm kinda busy, call U later, then don't call...& really B busy!... More in the link above. Hope this helps. Reeeally!
AC
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
31 Jan 08
wish it was that easy. the whole-telling-her is easy. but the outcome would be the hardest coz it's unknown. im a total chicken sh*t!
@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
12 Feb 08
Well, it might be worth truly investigating these feelings and if your friend is still single as well, take some time to go out somewhere for a nice dinner, and then discuss your situation, and see how she reacts. If she tells you that was Sweet but she does not feel the same way, then it is time to move on, and you will know you made the right move. If she tells you she Loves you too, then you decide where to go from there.
It is only when you both keep quiet you both keep on wondering, and can never be happy. Sounds like your next step is to let her know how much you care, and then move on from there. Wishing you the best.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 Jan 08
well it sounds to me that these feelings for your best friend are keeping you back from having meaningful relationships with other people,
so I would meet it head on and see if she wants to take it to the next level,
bear in my like any other relationship it may or may not work
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
i guess you'r right winterose. it's crazy. i greatly feel that we are both scared to take our friendship to the next level. i always get hurt whenever she tells me how she met a new guy and whenever i tell her i met someone -- she acts like a jealous girlfriend. neither of us raised the issue about getting together as a couple. we just know that we can always rely on each other to make things better whenever a relationship fail. what if we both sucked at keeping a relationship that's why we get along well? and taking it to the next level would only mean adding our relationship to our long list of failed ones. i don't know about her. but maybe it's best if i think things over. i don't wanna pop the question to her when i know im a total wreck. i want to be perfect for her as a lover. as far as i'm concerned -- i know for her, im the perfect friend. i don't wanna end up hurting my bestfriend
@bettyrose20 (997)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
thats tough..if you want to risk your friendship, then try to have a talk with her, and tell her what you want to tell..once you blurt it out, the friendship will have a taint on it..just be blunt about your feelings..because its so depressing that you cannot tell her all..its a pain on your back..so brace yourself, and let go..be brave enough to tell..
@loudhummer14 (535)
• Philippines
30 Jan 08
i just don't know how to start. don't want to waste a wonderful friendship. dont want to see it be thrown away and i dont wanna go on the rest of my life wondering how good it would be to finally call her as my own
@baebieDARNA30 (788)
• Philippines
11 Feb 08
that happened to me too.. but i let go of it.. i think we'll be better off as just best friends.. anyway, i dont have any regrets.. i want him to stay in my life.. i was afraid that things will change just because of our feelings for each other.. that's why i decided to st him free..
@toshismith (8)
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31 Jan 08
dis is fillings you can't keep on hiding cos its going to hunt you for long; so the best option is to have the courage to let her know how you fill about her.
@1HelmiPutra (60)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 08
You have to talk with her, you still have time. You already try with another persons. but maybe you're deepest feeling in your heart is only her. So it's time to her and go for it. don't think if she angry or what else but you just keep to try and I believe she will understand you.
