What was up her butt??
By Mare73
@Mare73 (1335)
United States
January 29, 2008 12:20pm CST
I called a friend of mine over the weekend and left her a message - she didn't call back. So yesterday I called her again and left her another message. The voicemail at home says to leave a message or if you know my cellphone number you can call me on that... Well she leaves a message saying it's her and that she doesn't have my cell phone number so for me to call her back. I call her back and she says - "You have a house number and cell phone?". I said "YES" - she goes on to say I haven't had food here for over a year and you have a house and cell phone???? I was like "huh"? What are you talking about - she hangs up on me!!! I called her back and asked what was up? "She said I've been here struggling and you have 2 phones..." what the hell?? I told her if she needed help she needed to - I'm not a mind reader! I told her I've always asked you how you are and you always say fine - if you weren't fine you should of said so... she hangs up again - so I left it alone - I didn't call back. MIND YOU she gets alimony, lives alone and is a store manager for Vitamin World.
Was I wrong not to call her back? What would you do?
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6 responses
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Just because it seems like she's doing ok does not mean she is. Being a manager for a store does not make you great bucks. Alimony sometimes sucks and is random sometimes depending on the person paying it. Just sounds like to me she's getting frustrated because she's working and working and what not and everyone around her is putting in less effort and getting out on top which can be frustrating for some, especially if they've been working harder and longer than others. Give her time to cool off and see where it goes from there.
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@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
30 Jan 08
She makes over $60,000, her ex-husband pays for HER mortgage and gives her an additional $1000 a month - she has no kids because they live w/the ex and he does not require her to pay child support. What she needs to do is STOP DRINKING! She needs to stop comparing herself to other people and live her life. As I said on an earlier post - I don't have time for people's petiness or bullsh*t, I have my own crap to deal with to be dragged into someone's ignorant crap. She has my number if and when she calls - she will know how I feel and I'll be done with it. Friends do NOT act that way. My tolerance level has significantly dismished and I'm not going to feel bad or be made to feel bad because of my blessings and sucesses.
Thanks for replying by the way.
@Springlady (3986)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Hmmm...I can't understand her problem! Sounds like she is in one heck of a mood!
I would just leave her alone for now. Maybe she will call and apologize. Maybe she was having a very bad day. I don't know.
You were being nice to her and she should not have treated you that way. I'm sorry this happened!
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
29 Jan 08
No, you weren't wrong. She should actually call you back and apologize for being a complete butt. she should be doing just fine with alimony and being a store manager. Maybe she was just having a really bad day or something. I don't know, but it sounds to me that she needs to apologize to you. Don't call her back, you did nothing wrong. keep us posted and God bless
@Louiseybaby (68)
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29 Jan 08
that is really weird! i have no idea what i would do in that situation! i guess it depeneds how close the two of you are!
@Briauna2008 (17)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I would call her back b/c maybe she was just stressed. Just b/c she gets alimony doesn't mean it can cover all her bills and ok she has a job, but ppl still have financial problems at times.
@jhl930 (3601)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I can't be for sure but the problem could be that she works alot and isn't getting anywhere really and she sees someone who has more than her and couldnt stand it anymore and just finally snapped. I don't know but I do agree with you if she needed help she should have just told someone so they could help her instead of taking it out on someone whos done nothing to her. Some people just have so much pride that they wont ask other people for help no matter what. I would try to call her or either go over to her house and sit down with her and ask her if there was anything that I could do to help her that I would always be there for her! If she still didn't want my help after that there's nother that you can do!
@Mare73 (1335)
• United States
29 Jan 08
I don't believe in friends being jealous of friends like that. Some people have more experience than others, etc... and they are able to get better jobs; it's not my fault. I'm leaving it/her alone. She knows my numbers and if and when she calls, I'll take it from there.
