Thanks, please do remind me to NOT respond to any of your posts again!

That's one reason why I carefully choose and maintain the friends I have here, I delete these types of members if ever I have them on my list. We used to have one particular famous member like that here back then, I thought that person was also interested of posting through responding on some of my discussions but I was wrong as that member only used so many of us for his/her own interest. Somebody got annoyed of that person and made a post about his/her LACK of participation in posting, so our final verdict was remove him/her from our list. That person didn't return here no more, maybe because of shame as the whole community humiliated him/her. Imagine, with only about 500 posts, he/she managed to befriend almost half of the number of the whole community back then. I say, that's desperation on that person's side!;)

I'm pretty sure that we are talking different people here, that person was a he though I believe he has been inactive here right before you became a member!;) But the sad thing is, that particular member was also from our country. I pretty much understand your situation, we all have our own responsibilities to take care of outside mylot. The only difference between you and me, I don't just have to be that busy to take care of my duties!;) Thanks to the both of you, lj and jc!;)

Raijin, there's one particular member here whom I don't see here anymore. And it's a "he". And if I remember correctly, that member had reached about 500 posts. My experience with that member I was talking about was he kept giving me referral links to different sites he's a member of. And I just kept on denying him because I wasn't interested. At that time, I was completely and unashamedly addicted to MyLot. I'm not sure if we're talking about the same person. But if he's not here, then I've seen him in other social sites, and he's very active there. In my case, I had some discussions before that took a long time before I got to comment back. For two reasons: 1) My mind is a total blank during those times that I want to give comments but can't think of the right words to type and 2) I'm always busy everyday here at home. Not to mention with my son's school activities. And by the time that I'm free with everything and I'm sitting in front of the PC, my eyes are giving up on me and just want to close and go to sleep!lol But these past few days, I'm trying to squeeze in some time for MyLot. I don't want to wait at the end of the day to start Mylotting because I won't be able to do anything. By that time, I'm too tired to think.

You're still a newbie, you'll get to understand it once you get active here daily!LoL

lol im learning lots about mylot. mostley good.hopefully there is more good things to learn in the future.

Hi again, Does it really matter how other people order their priorities? It's nice that you respect people who respond to your contributions. Each member of myLot does, however, have the freedom to order their priorities and their participation as they see fit. I do regard the umbrage of some members at the failure of other members' to conform to expectations as just a little quaint, given that no mandate exists to compel conformity. This is all very consistent with the collective human behavior in most real-world communities - which is to be expected, I guess, given that humans are a herding species, and have an inherent desire not just to conform, but to compel conformity in others. And that attitude has started to emerge in some elements of this thread which propose "cancelling" the myLot accounts of members who don't satisfy the particular expectations of other myLot members. Here's my view - what does it matter if someone doesn't respond? Any problem, if one exists, is resolvable entirely within the psyche of the person who, being ignored, thereby perceives themselves to be injured. The solution is to recognize that any injury in this situation is self-inflicted. The "perpetrator" most likely has no knowledge of the mayhem that he or she has caused by their error, deliberate or otherwise. They don't care, so why should you?

It is because that is what I seek, just like you, you have a different approach in this case so I respect that. That's why I posted this discussion to seek other people's opinion as well, while in your case you find it already offensive others don't then it seems you really misunderstood my point. Every word written here are just in my thoughts, just to let out my frustrations and has no intention of provoking others.

I'm saying this not only for my very own interest, but for the community as a whole. It's pretty obvious that you're not that much active here, compared to me and the rest that understood my case. All of your points are taken for, but what I was saying here is all those active posters that starts and starts continuous discussions that don't even bother to respond or make any single comment in it. I have great respect for those who do acknowledge one's thought, it only shows how they are eager to learn and share what they know by interacting through one's posts. Why spend some time posting when you don't even seem to be interested at your own discussion, that to me is what I'm pointing out here. I don't really care if others need the money, as dollar's exchange here in my country are big as well. But since I'm not really after that, I'm out here to enjoy and one thing I enjoy at is having conversations and chatting in a sensible way..

For me, I seldom respond with one or two-liners. I always make sure that what I give out is well-thought, that most of the times I get frustrated when I don't receive any comment from it. Then after checking back on that discussion, it's wither the poster responded to short posts and "say thank you" and then skip the response I made. I think people are only looking for responses that agrees with them, comments on their friends only and some don't even comment at all. This is what annoys me, so I have made a list of those members that don't comment and skip their discussions. Besides, I'm not here merely for the money but for a good conversation as well..=)

Thank you, I hope you won't be like those OTHERS I'm pertaining to here!;)

Mylot has become more of an earning site, than a community. These things never happened to me before, people should realize that. If they don't respond, then the essence of the discussion site is taken for granted.

true i agree with you totally.

you do have a point dvschic. most of them probably won't respond if they feel tht they don't have anything to say at all. and yes, mylot is also becoming more of a paidtopost from what i can see. i hope that the people here will still give good feedbacks and responses though. tht's what makes a good community.

Don't worry, I'm good with it already. I just want to let my frustrations out, that's why I started a discussion about it..

There is a big difference between you and me, you have more friends (which I prefer less with mine), you have referrals that are active (which I do but are not active, but I don't worry much about it since I have been doing this for a very long time now) and lastly, I don't start discussions that much. Seriously, I don't really care much about the earnings here. I'm after conversations, which I believe this site was what's it all about. I have good and active friends here that make great discussions, but I am not full of idea to respond to each and every posts they make. So with that, I turn to go outside my list and search for discussions that I know I can share my thoughts and are not that complicated to respond at. So I found out who are after for the money and those who are after friendly conversations, I have given them some chances by responding again and again but I already got fed up with them not taking such considerations..

You seem to feel my seriousness, I guess it only shows how passionate I am to whatever it is that I do. It just so happen that I consider being here on mylot and as a member of it, seriously.

you're really super serious today bok. lighten up. ^__^ i do have lots of friends in my list but there's only a selected few that i treat as real friends (that includes you pare LOL) and only a few that are on "notification on" or "notify on", whatever, which means i let myLot notify me when they start a discussion. and yes, i also have a lot of referrals but only 2 or 3 are active and i'm just so sad that the rest didn't find this site worthy of their time. anyway, i'm also here for a quality time, but also a fun time and that for me is sharing experiences and everything. but i won't deny that i'm also here to earn. this is the first and last site where i am earning money and it just excites me a lot. there's fun and money so what can i ask for? ^__^ i get annoyed here at time too, i'll admit that, some people ticks me off too to the very core of me but i don't want to let them dampen my spirit so i do my very best to ignore them or what they have said or whatever they did that annoyed me, and i just continue to enjoy the site. ^__^

There really is a very big difference between those working outside of the internet and working inside it, I admire those people who do have a good means of living and a good day job. I know you've been to these types of posts, where sometimes that person don't bother to comment on any single bit of response they receive. Sometimes, there are even those who only tries to acknowledge their FRIENDS since they always seek for a response that AGREES with them. The remaining responses, they are all "non-existing" for them.

No, I know that you're not that active as I also know that you'll surely give a comment whenever a response has given you some ideas. That's what I've been doing now, I hope that they are proud of themselves..

No worries, atleast you still make time for it when you have. So don't feel guilty, I know that you only come around here often.. =)

Thanks really. I still am actually gathering my thoughts regarding your reply in the concert. :P Hope you're cool already. :D

I know that it doesn't, but people should be helping each other here and not only a one-way type of participating. I've been here long enough, most of those which do this only comes here for the money and then leaves after they've satisfied their pockets. I guess that's where mylot lost it's reputation, people posting for cents and not sense..

Don't worry, I'm cool as ice but can fiery as a magma as well!;) It only surprises me to see this happening, I never thought that this would happen this early. I guess the times and tides have changed, poor mylot!LoL

You're right there....!!!!!! But don't worry, even BIBLE which promise human the heaven in next life, also being IGNORED by the followers......so, our discussion is small issue compare to it. That is the different between CENTS and SENSE......!!!!! I'm cool now, after being knock-down by "Mylot Problem Loading Page" left unattended by mylot for almost two(2) month.....take it easy Raijin...!!!

Yes I'm doing my best not to, but it seems that their discussions are the one's I usually see here!;) I guess I just came to the end of string yesterday, but otherwise, everything else here are still great!;)

I guess I've mentioned that newbies are pretty much understandable, well you're excused. I'm pertaining to those who prefer to start tons of discussions a day, then doesn't even bother to make some comments for the responders that took time to read and share their opinions for the sake of helping the thread host. But do make sure that you already understood what posting means here, it's not all about making money..