Is it me or do people seem not to have manners these days

I am so glad to read that other people miss common courtesy in people these days. I thought it was me being old fashioned about it! I might be 40 now but even when I was 25 it annoyed me that so many people are just lacking in basic manners, like if you hold the door open for someone or the lift do they bother to say thank you? Rarely. And I always do this for people, I go out of my way to be nice and 99% of the time it's not acknowledged. I still can't stop myself from having manners though as I was brought up to say please, thank you and sorry and have respect for other people. I don't know what it is these days, even kids in school treat their teachers with so much contempt generally I feel so sorry for them - they work so hard for so little money trying to better youngsters' lives and what do they get in return? They get called all the names under the sun and can't even dish out any discipline as they'll risk being hauled over the coals or losing their jobs if they so much as raise their voice! Sad sad world! x

I think there is more of a lack of respect these days in which alot more people have no good manners. I have noticed this in adults and children as well. It makes me feel very worried about what the world is turning into. I think the world is so corrupt and fast paced these days, that people do not have the time that it takes to be courteous and respctful to others. I think alot of it is caused by stress and feelings that they are not worthy.

Two of the first words my grandson learned to say were please and thank you. It all comes from training and parents passing down good manners to their children. I'm really annoyed at the lack of respect many older men that should have been trained in manners have in the grocery store. They are running around, usually with a cell phone in their ear, and really don't mind ramming anyone in their way with a cart. My mom is 77 and I take her shopping every week. One Friday morning, I counted four men of all ages that practically ran her out of the shopping aisle because she wasn't moving fast enough. However, when I was working at Walmart, a young man in his 20's came into my lane and treated me with such wonderful respect. Every question was answered with yes ma'am or no ma'am. I told him that he must have wonderful parents to learn such beautiful manners and he said, "raised in Georgia, ma'am". While I was shopping, another young man made sure I was first in line ahead of him and he said, "my mom would be ashamed of me if I didn't let ladies first in line". So, just when you think manners are totally "out the window", here are a couple of examples of our young men of the future. That makes me feel good!

most people are ok in the small city i live in (midwest state..USA) but the big cities like Detroit or Chicago are not the same...but i have always depended on the kindness of strangers and I have been lucky to find people to come to my aide if i needed them..but saying that..i have always try to make sure I was not lacking anything when i left my house... i guess i am just a small town guy and live the simple life..but i used to travel a lot and found good people everywhere.

I always respect elders especially at any situation so most of the i will give my first preference to my parents because i get great joy while i am speaking to my parents they love me very much and most of the time i prefer to chat elders in my home town.

Respect elders and protect youngers are good manners, I have been taught by parents and teachers since I was a kid. I give my seat to elders and woman who hold a child in her arm every time in the subway or bus. I will feel uneasy if I see them stand and I sit.

hi ellie! you are right...good manners is not so common today. i have observed that young people are not as considerate, like closing opened doors, greetings elders, etc. i think they lack the training of their parents. i think probably their parents have been too busy working and not able to spend time with them. so they don't have examples of good manners and right conduct. take care and God bless you!

I notice it not only in the younger ages but also how brutal it is here in the U.S compared to Canada..Why are ppl like this these days? Because society for the most part has become a greedy, self absorbed bunch IMO

Hi Ellie, I think that now days a lot of people only care about themselves and don't want anyone to get in there way. I see it when shopping, on the sidewalk and especially when driving on the freeway. I think greed takes over and most people just don't care or respect anyone, but I guess you can say this for just about all faucets of modern society. Just my two cents. Take care, Terry

I have noticed that too. My grandkids have been taught manners and I am proud of my kids for doing that. I think some people have never been treated with respect and so they really don't understand what the concept of manners is all about. This starts at home as a basic training. And I do think some people don't have the time or energy to teach their children how to be polite. They give in to them instead of fighting with them!

hi ellie, i think that kind of people never been taught that kind of manners.cheers

I've noticed on occasion that some folks are just plain rude -- especially shoppers. By the same token, some people are extremely courteous and go out of their way to be helpful. It irritates the bleep out of me when shoppers act like they're the only ones in the store. Being busy is no excuse for rudeness, ellie. I suppose the kind thing to do would be just figure they're having a bad day and not let it affect your day. Sometimes that's easier said than done. :\

Unfortunately it is true. I work at a high school and the children of today are extremely disrespectful. I myself was brought up to respect your elders, to say excuse, thank you, and all that other good stuff but it's like this new generation either wasn't taught or they just don't use what has been taught to them. I am a mother of 3 boys and I stress the importance of having respect for others as well as yourself.

I have noticed this, and I think that young people do have manners on the whole, but some have simply not been brought up to adhere to them. I really don't know what to do to solve this. Even giving up a seat to a pensioner on the bus, or helping someone if they need a hand would be nice.

Hello, common curtesy is like common sense, its not that common.