is it possible for alovers to be friends after they call it quits?

I am so saddened to 'hear' this restless and sorry it couldn't work out for you. I hope you don't mind me asking, but are you sure it is over and their is no hope of a reconcilliation? Yep, it sounds to me like you haven't had a chance to get over him yet and are still in love. Been there. Done that. A few times. Yes, it is possible to be friends after, but as someone else replied it soes take time. The amount of time is different for everyone. If you really can't be together, I know it is tough but you need to make peace with that and move, keeping your friendship and your loving memories in tact and if he does the same thing, then yes you will manage to stay friends,

I am sorry for making conclusions right away, but as I sense it, you actually are still in the "lover" state. Now, if you are through with being lovers totally, then becoming or remaining friends is a function of a many factors and circumstances, making it quite difficult to say categorically yes or no. At any rate, I can say it depends on at least two factors: 1) the circumstances surrounding the end of the "lover" state, 2) mutual understanding of what a "friendship" state should be (after all, people create their own realities and joint experiences help them define and agree on these realities). From here, I would say that "n" more factors are possible. I am sure a great many others can add their ideas to this list of factors that define how ex-lovers relate to each other in the "next life". hehe.. cheers!

Of course lovers can split up and still remain friends..I have ALWAYS remained friends with my ex's still to this day...I see no reason to NOT be friends I mean we were friends to begin with and there was obviously some connection so why break that just because intimately it didnt work...I'll never understand that sort of mindset really.... In your case though, how long ago did you two break up? If its still fresh then I can see why you feel the way you do especially if it was a long term relationship

Well, I have no idea about what the reasons were for you two to break up. But maybe, he is feeling the same way as you, and you will never know unless you ask him. Just a little something more for you to contemplate before you totally throw away something that could have been wonderful....

Yes it is but it takes a long time to get over those initial emotional feelings you have right after a relationsihp. I have friendships with a few ex-boyfriends that after 20 years I still have. I don't feel love for them as I used to, but we are good friends and when we are in contact with each other we act like the best of friends. My husband has met him and he thinks its great that we have a mutual respect for each other.

i would say yes... but it takes time...i mean, to be friends with oyur ex means your over the heartbreak, the love and you are sure you moved on as well as the other person... or else your just be up for trouble.