A husband that works alot can i get mad????

My husband works a lot too. He owns his own business and I am a part time student, part-time homemaker. It does suck that he is never home, but I enjoy the time that we spend together more than I did when he was home a lot. Sometimes the kids remind him that they don't get to see him that much and he adapts his schedule to spend more time with them. I find myself getting upset if he comes home and the kids go to bed and he turns on the computer to wind down and play card games or something and chats with his friends, but can make little or no small talk with me. I guess I feel jealous. I don't so much get mad at him for it, but I find it unfair. Maybe we're just being selfish. If he didn't work as hard or as much as he does, we wouldn't have what we have either. We talk to each other on the phone a few times every day and that helps, but I agree with you, I still miss him.

You're right, there seems to be an imbalance that he does all the work while you spend all the time with the kids. Maybe both of you can just take on part-time jobs. That ought to even things out. I've never believed in working hard. Working smart is better, especially when you have kids to spend time with.

I've been there. my husband was in the army. by the time he'd come home he'd be too tired to do anything. i was a SAHM and i hardly saw him. but, he had his job, and i had mine and all that was needed was a way to work around our busy schedules. here are some ideas that helped my family. Dinner should always be served at the dinner table w/ everyone there, as much as possible. Every gets a hug, a kiss, and a "i love you" everyday. He spends one-on-one time w/ each of the kids. this should be done everyday, even if it's for 20 minutes each. and on his open days, if he can do more, like take one out to DQ or a movie, or the park, that would be great, too. Either once a week or every other week, he should take all the coulds for about a 1/2 day. Either he stays home w/ them or they go out. That way you can have your "metime" by either soaking in a bath, or going out to a movie or taking your time through your favorite store. whatever it is, make sure it's NOT an errand. lol. Of course, family time is good, too...plan family outings, together. and most importantly for you both, have dates once or twice a month. hire a babysitter or call a family member to watch the kids in the evening or something. sometimes, we go grocery shopping as a family. it takes a little longer and sometimes it costs a little more(((LOL))), but it's still family time. This way, when he's working and you are dealing w/ the kids, it's just you 2 working and living your own lives. but, at the same time you still come together as a family. i don't know if you nag at all...i did. i use to do it because i missed him and just wanted his attention. well, all that did was push him away more. Make sure that the time you guys do spend together, it's enjoyable. He stresses, too, i'm sure. He's working hard to support the family, and if you get mad at him for it, he can start feeling unappreciated. and if you started working, that would mean the kids would see even less of both of you. i'm thinking that he would probably work just as hard as he is now, because that's his job. anyway, i hope i've helped.

your man's working too hard he already neglects family life. maybe you can talk to him nicely when he's not tired, tell him that his family misses him. and maybe ask him if he could work less or if u could help him work. because he may not just be neglecting his family life, but his health as well.

Hi :), read this U must! The husband should treat his wife with respect, Understanding and consideration and not a servant nor as a doll in his hands. although he may be regarded as the bread-winner of the family, depends on situation if you got mad if he really has certain shortcomings,you should try to talk with him and correct him in a gentle manner and your husband must also his duty to help you with the household work whenever he is free. so that you can have happy union :) Understanding and tolerance are required to overcome the feelings og anger and suspicious. To think that the one does not need to adopt a give and take attitude is to presume that love in marriage is just for the asking without any sacrifice on our part. both are need to have time together sis. Marriage is a blessing, but unfortunately, many people treat it otherwise due to a lack of correct communication and understanding. keep on going good attitude sis you can pray all time then talk about it. Take care! -jhaz

I used to feel the same way, but when i realized how much more important it was for me to be able to stay at home with my children i lightened up on him because i knew he was doing it for me and the kids. He's also in the service, so he's deployed for the second time in the last four years, but while he was home he worked his butt off trying to make ends meet so i could stay at home with our kids. I totally love him and respect him for it now, but it took me a while. we had so many arguments over him working all the time, but it was my fault. iwanted it all...for me to be able to stay at home and for him to be able to spend time with us as much as possible. it was very stressful for him already working so much to pay the bills and i only made it worse. just try to be patient and give him a break cause he really is doing this for you and the children. even though it sucks not having him there, it's for you to be able to stay home and that is important in such a small child's life. they need you there with them. good luck and God bless

Of course you do! You married HIM not his job! My husband is constantly busy too and it use to drive me crazy...he never had time for us (my and my kids) but I've just come to realize that thats the way it is..I've nattered at him about it and we came to the conclusion that we have to settle for "stolen moments" as he puts it....Which being the type of person I am is fine for me really but Ive never been a "need to be with you" type of gal... IN your situation though, I would seriously sit him down and tell him that you two NEED TO MAKE TIME for each other...even if its one night a week for now for you and him and a night a week for the family (since your kids are so young)..Tell him that he can at least give you that and his work will still be there...but FAMILY COMES FIRST!

Have you talked to him about your feelings? This would be a very important thing to do. I know it can happen that both of you start to argue but it really is important to tell how you feel and so on. You can't swallow your feelings and thoughts for ever. If you do it will destroy you or at least you will get so unhappy that you want to quit the marriage. Children can feel a lot - probably they also see whats going on behind the *happy mother*... you should think about that too.

I'm with you 10000%. My husband goes to work from 4am till 4pm and half the time he works Saturday and Sundays too. He comes home from work, has a shower and his supper and goes to bed. Half the time he dont even eat with my son and I because he's tired and just grabs something quick before heading to bed. We see him about 20 minutes a day. I'm currently pregnant with my second child and wonder what I am going to do when he's gone all the time, with 2 kids and my son is also starting to ask why daddy is never home with us.