Potty training 3 yr old boy HELP

I understand your frustration, but the fact is he will not do it until he is good and ready. He is in charge of his body and this can't be forced. He probably wants to have some power, and this is one of the best ways to do it. Try backing off, losing interest, at least letting him think you did. In the meantime, give him as much independence as you can. Let him pick out his own clothes (within reason), get himself dressed, even help change himself when he is wet. Don't make a big deal about it, just let him change and move on. Focus your attention on other things he does well. Leave the opportunity open for him to use the toilet whenever he decides to do it. I know this is counterintuitive, but trying to push will only make it harder, for you and him. Once he feels relaxed and like you are not interested, he will probably take more of an interest. When he does, try putting a couple Cheerios in the toilet for him to aim at. As far as lying to the preschool, don't. It won't take them long to catch on, and in the meantime it will be taking the teacher's attention away from the classroom and that is not fair to your son or the other children there. If you think seeing other children going will help, try arranging playdates for him.

What have you tried? With my girl we kept the bathroom door open when we went and she would come in and ask what we are doing. Then we made a big deal about getting her own potty to use like us. We had her naked all the time with the potty in the front room and after a couple weeks moved it into the bathroom. It stuck real well and helped with night training. The only thing was it took a little while till she was ready to do training out of the house with clothes on.

My advice would be to back off and not make an issue of it. My daughter was going to the potty and then decided she didn't want to anymore, so I left it and waited until she told me she wanted to go potty again. With my son, he learnt to use the potty sitting down. Once he got around other boys who stood up to pee he started to stand up. Also if he was outside playing I let him pee outside so he learnt that way to pee standing up too. I never gave rewards for using the potty, I just clapped my hands yelling yeah! and told them how wonderful and clever they were. Try letting him just wear pants during the day at home and use pullups for night and if you are going out. I also found that if my daughter was wearing pullups she would just wet them but if she had pants on she didn't like wetting herself.

Without knowing what all you are doing, I can only offer generic help. I have had some training in child care as I was a foster parent for many years and had to have 70 hours of training each year. Some of the things I learned are these: 1) do not put a lot of pressure on the child. If it becomes a bad experience for him, your problem will be worse not better. 2) if you are using pull ups, stop. These prevent the child from feeling wet and they do not associate the uncomfortable feeling of wetness with the fact that they have to go. Put him in pants and if you are afraid of getting urine on things use good old fashioned plastic pants over them. 3) do not put diapers or pull ups on him when you go places or to go to bed. He can not distinguish between the fact that it is o.k. to pee in his pants now because you are out somewhere and it is not o.k. at other times. Hopefully something here will help. Good luck.

We're having issues with my soon to be 3 year old. She goes in streaks where she'll go potty in the potty even poop. I have a friend who had issues gettin her son to pee in the potty, she put blue food coloring in the potty before she got him to go pee so when he peed it turned green "magic" from then on he LOVED going pee in the potty!

I have a younger brother and he's 6 years old now. When he was 3 we also had a problem about that. But you should be patient about it because everyone of us is different. Maybe, who can tell, your son will be trained to go to the potty by then.

my son was the same way. finally, the day after his 4th bday, i took away his diapers. he knew where to go potty, he knew how, but he just refused to do it. He didn't want to wear underwear, either, so he wore nothing. lol. when he had to go really bad, he had no choice but to use the toilet. he had a couple accidents, but it only took a day. after that he was ready to wear his underwear. If you try it, make sure you're ready for a day that's all about him, just in case there's accidents. if he's more comfortable doing it sitting down, let him do it. eventuallly, he'll do it the other way. besides, he has to learn how to control it, so you don't want him standing up right now....lol. just remember when you go out, when he says he has to go, don't make him hold it, because he can't. He's use to going whenever, so it will take awhile for him to get use to holding it until he gets to a bathroom. i had to learn that the hard way. lol

I like you have two older daughters who were easier to train and have a little boy who is nearly four. He has only been potty trained for a few months now. I didn't push him but one day he just decided he wanted to be a big boy. What worked was skipping the potty and putting a ping pong ball in big toilet and letting him aim at him. Great fun. Obviously remove it for more than a wee. Good luck, but if not sorted I'd tell a white lie and they at preschool will put it down to new starter accident and seeing others lads peeing will definately help!

i had that trouble till even later. but it's surprising that preschools there don't allow kids who haven't been trained. for me, when my son started nursery at 4, he's a dec babe so he had jus turned 3 and the next year, he's nursery, i was fortunate enough tht the sch accepted him. for really long, a few mths, he used to wet his shorts and the teachers put on another short for him. i was frustrated too. even now, my son can jus go and pass urine but for long toilet, i have to be there. initially i had to hold him, it's a toilet bowl. but now, he's slowly learning that he can do it himself as long as i'm there. of course i have to wash for him. if a child gets praised too often, they'll become wayward, seeking even more attention. so you must know when to praise him. for me, i used to tell him that "oohh, you're such a big boy. surely you can do it yourself?" if he wanted to take up the challenge, then off he went and showed off. if not, he would say pampers. i would also tell him mom's money is finishing. it takes time but he'll learn slowly, surely. no use forcing. scolding might work sometimes when he knows you're serious but not all the time as he tends to be immune to it after some time. jus be patient and treat him as you would a child who understands you well. best of luck. for me, i'm starting to get him to do the long toilet on his own, then call me when finished. my neighbour's son does it on his own and even bathes himself, and he's only like 3-4 mths older than my son.