cranky people

United States
January 30, 2008 6:34am CST
i was looking for some stamps and my wife told me i probably threw them out as they were in the envelope in a drawyer..so i looked twice in the drawyer and no stamps..even took the drawyer out and looked under the drawyer..and then i went through all the garbage (as next day was garbage day) but I seen some stuff my wife threw out..she threw away her old perfum and some of these bottles i had bought and they were more then half full..she said she did not like "OLD:_) perfume..it smelled ok to me.? but also she threw away a lot of stuff that made me think how wasteful she is...stuff that was not even used.. but i went back to the drawyer a final time and found the envelope..an old GAs bill had been in right where we both looked..several times..and there the stamps were.. she also accused me of throwing away her shoes when she was gone for two monts..but I did not..as I just restacked her shoe boxes in the basement and she accused me of throwing away a letter that a company gave her for references..she worked there a long time..and I said no it is in the SAFE Deposit box at the bank..cause i just saw it recently... but I am accused a lot of things that never happened..and there is just the two of us in this house..makes me annoyed as even after 22 years you get treated like "leave it to beaver" lol...so i just try to stay away from her stuff...period.
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@Liasonfan (1702)
• Canada
31 Jan 08
LOL My hubby and I have these 'little' arguments all the time. It's in the drawer. No it's not. Where are my keys? Right where you left the,. No they are not!! Yo me it is just part of being married. I hate clutter, and am always throwing away stuff we rarely use, but I have learned to ask over the years and debate with him when it is something of his, because he is a packrat. Usually I win and it gets tossed, occasionally, I let him win and he gets to keep it for awhile longer, lol!
• United States
31 Jan 08
its all good. everyone has their area's but we are still going to have area's that i called grey areas
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
31 Jan 08
Keeping too many old stuff is not good. Life is like river, you can only keep what you need and you use. If not in use, things are loosing energy and get broken... Material world needs energy. If people don't get organized, they are always looking for items hard to find. My parents are doing the same things you do. They keep to much and no longer remember what and where....funny game when they say who is trowing things in the garbage....
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• United States
31 Jan 08
my wife and I separate our stuf..her stuff goes in her area and my stuff goes in my area..but some things are shared..so most of the time we know what we are doing and I too agree..if you are not using something ..just throw it away, or give it away but get rid of the clutter as I don't like to be in places where it looks like a flea market..junk scattered everywhere..lol
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@zeloguy (4911)
• United States
30 Jan 08
My wife is a throw awayer and I like to hang onto stuff. God knows when you will need it. I have all kinds of wires and funky tools that I used only once. But once in a while I will have a need for something and go... I have one of those... dig through some boxes and voila there it is. So for Christmas she came to a comprimise with me and bought me a toolbox. ME. The person that fixes nothing if it isn't a computer. If I could get it in there she wouldn't throw it away. There is all kinds of stuff in there from tools, to tape, to WD-40 to SHOES. There is cologne that I want to throw out that really is old but the stuff is so darn expensive I just need to put a little more on to get the same effect (as the smell wears out over time).
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• United States
30 Jan 08
my wife don't touch my work shop in the basement unless to borrow a tool but she has a room next to it that I am not allowed..fair enough ..A friend of mine has a wife from Thailand and she does not cook to his taste and vice versa so he said he would like a separate KITCHEN as she ruined all his teflon cooksware..he had a whole complete set but he could not get it in her head no to use metal on Teflon..i am guilty of doing this to our George Foremans grill but so far she has not used it..but its only a matter of time. I think I will give her old perfume to the homeless shelter..as it is next to our library..i pulled it out of the garbage and i hate to see it go to waste..i know what I paid for some of this stuff...lol life is a constant battle...after marriage there is never a dull minute...
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@zeloguy (4911)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I haven't heard of two different people having two kitchens but have heard of jews having two seperate kitchens... one for milk/dairy and one for meat.
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• United States
31 Jan 08
if you knew my friend tom ..you would understand how he wants his own kitchen ..he does not want his wife to touch his stuff..lol..my wife feels that way about me when i am in the kitchen..sometimes...she does not even want me to wash the dishes as i don't do it the way she would..lol..fine with me...i let my wife do most of the cooking..she is a great cook ..much better then i am...
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• United States
21 Feb 08
The best policy is not to throw anything away of your wifes. Or for that matter rearrange the stuff. It can get you in a heap of trouble sometimes. I used to watch, "Leave it to Beaver" and liked the reference you used.
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• United States
21 Feb 08
we found her stuff but the thing is she is mad because when she was away for 45 days she could not find stuff and automaticcaly blamed me..it all was there but in a different locaton... "Ward! you were a little hard on the beaver last night!" is a classic line of the infamous Leave it to Beaver...Walt Disney said it best "for every laughter there has to be a tear" sad but true ..thanks for the post Sunshine lady..it looks like a nice dress..
@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
30 Jan 08
LOL! You are not giving me much hope for the future! I guess it is a good idea to keep away from wife's things so as not to be blamed! My husband does much the same thing. I don't blame him really! Your a good man I tell ya!
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• United States
30 Jan 08
my wife has an excuse..she has a bad cold..but when she gets mad everything comes out at once...so i just keep my mouth shut...that is the only defense.. she is a good women ..but nobody is perfect...but if someone calls me a lair or a thief..my little head goes nuts..but i learned to control my self and just remember to not let little things get me upset..you have to learn to pick your battles..lol..have a nice day
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
8 Feb 08
I know the feeling my other half literally acts like I'm nuts when I can't find something where he says it is and then when I do find it he never moved it. I love him but my stamps are always in the computer desk drawer and he complained they were there .. No he neglected to move the papers to get to it. LOL!! It's like that all the time I have given up on moving anything of his since he doesn't believe where I put crap. LOL!!!
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@jcj_111776 (3216)
• Philippines
7 Feb 08
I've been married for six years now and I have to say that my husband is the clutter type and I'm the one who sorts out his clutter. And he tends to forget all the time where he put some things. Thankfully, I'm a bit organized when it comes to stuffs in our home. So, when he needs to find a particular stuff, I can find it for him in a few seconds. Actually, I tell him all the time that he looks with his mouth and not his eyes. Yes, it does irritate me when he complains that he can't find a particular stuff. And I always tell him that he should use his eyes to look for that thing and stop complaining and just close his mouth. For years, I've tried to sort things in my husband's desk. Organize his stack of papers. But needless to say, I've given up. And when it was his time to find an important document, and he was asking me? I told him that I've organized his stuffs but he kept on disorganizing it. So, he shouldn't ask me where that document is. I suggested though that he starts digging in his pile of papers and try to do some organizing himself. And he did.:)