Mom--Don't Ever Forget To Say The Words I Love You To Her.
By sunshinelady
@sunshinelady (7609)
United States
January 30, 2008 10:32am CST
No matter how old we get we are never to old to say those words to Mom. She never tires of hearing them and it makes her feel good to know that you still love her. Some people say actions speak louder than words but those words of I love you spoken out loud can bring a shine to a mothers face. They are precious people-mothers are and need to know even when they are in the Golden Years. No one knows how long they will have their mother with them on this earth. Let them know now while they can hear the words spoken and have their faces light up with delight.
BEING A MOTHER
After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie.
She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman loves you and would Love to spend some time with you.'
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my Mother, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.
'What's wrong, are you well,' she asked? My Mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.
'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some time with you,' I responded 'just the two of us.” She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 'I would like that very much.”
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said, as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to hear about our meeting.'
We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My Mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady.
After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mother sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.
'It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor,' I responded. During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie. As we arrived at her house later, she said, 'I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you.' I agreed.
'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when I got home. 'Very nice, much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.
A few days later, my Mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I didn't have a chance to do anything for her. Sometime later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place Mother and I had dined. An attached note said: 'I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but; nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me.
I love you, son.'
At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: 'I love YOU' and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till 'some other time.'
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get back to normal after you've had a baby.... somebody doesn't know that once you're a Mother, 'normal' is history.
Somebody said you can't love the second child as much as you love the first....somebody doesn't have two or more children.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a Mother is labor and delivery....somebody never watched her 'baby' get on t he bus for the first day of kindergarten...or on a plane headed for military 'boot
camp.'
Somebody said a Mother can stop worrying after her child gets married....somebody doesn't know that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to a Mother's heartstrings.
Somebody said a Mother's job is done when her last child leaves home....somebody never had grandchildren.
Somebody said your Mother knows you love her, so you don't need to tell her....somebody isn't a Mother.
This isn't just about being a Mother; it's about appreciating the people in your lives while you have them....no matter who that person is.
Watch your Thoughts, they become words. Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions, they become habits.
Watch your Habits, they become character.
Watch your Character, for it becomes your Destiny
'Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle'.
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4 responses
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
31 Jan 08
My Children always tell me that they love me they always have and still do now
They 20 and 23
Actually in March my Girl is turning 21 and goodness the amount of time I have sat here and thought back from the Day they where born to now
My Children are very special to me and always will be
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
1 Feb 08
My son and his children always tell me they love me. I don't think there should ever come a time when kids are to old to tell their Mom this. In my book my Mom will always be Mom and she sacraficed a lot to get us kids all growed up and on our own. I come from a family of ten. I tell my Mom that I love her. Those are precious words and it always brings a smile to her face. She is 86.
@sunshinelady (7609)
• United States
1 Feb 08
Yes, I do know what you mean. This is the first time I have put a discussion that is this length. But it touched me so much. I figured I would just post it here. In this busy lives of ours we sometimes forget not meaning to but forget to say I love you to the one that is reasonable for the way we are today. My Mom is 86 and I love her very much. When I talk to her I make sure to say the words I love you. I also drop a card every now and then to let her know this also.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
30 Jan 08
your first story really touched me deeply I long to hear those words from my son, I think I heard him he loved me once in the last 10 years
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@SukiSmiles (1991)
• United States
30 Jan 08
I definately agree with you. I was not raised in a very affectionate household. We didn't say I love you very much to each other or hug either. But after meeting my husband he showed me that a simple "I love you" can mean so much to someone. So, now I always end calls to my family with "I love you". We hug when we see eachother. In general just show the other person how we care. I know my mom really loves this. She just beams when my kids shower her with hugs and kisses.