How do you deal with your childs temper?

Now is the time to get a handle on this behavior. If you don't stop it now, it will get worse and worse. If she has started screaming or throwing tantrums, when you take something away from her, and she starts with the fit, pick her up, speaking calmly, saying "You can't act like this. You have to be a big girl and no means no. When you calm down, you can come back out of your bed." I've dealt with children who were never given boundries when they were 1-1 1/2 years old, and at 5 they are little heathens. They became violent when they didn't get their way, and basically run the house because the parents are afraid to make the child mad. If you back down at this age, the child is learning what they have to do to get their way. You have to stick by your rules. You don't always have to take her to her bed, but if she screams and stuff, just ignore it. Don't cater to it or try to distract her. She needs to learn self-coping strategies. Simply take it away, tell her "You aren't supposed to have this." and leave it at that. She may scream, but if you automatically try to comfort her, she's going to know that the screaming triggers sympathy and she will get rewarded for the behavior. Hope that helps.

When my kids throw temper tantrums or gets a smart mouth then there are a couple of things I do.... For my 4, 3,2, 10 year old I make them go sit in a corner in their room and make them stay there until they can behave. If they dont stop then they still have to sit there . If they need to potty then when they are done they go back to there corner. My two year old daughter throws a fit when she doesnt get her and is told no and she has to sit on a naughty seat in her room which works great. She is away from the action and cant play with her siblings she will straighten up really quick. My ten year old is going through her pre-teen phase and she trys to talk back; when she does she gets privilages taken away and she has to stay in her room all day long. After the third time she realized I was serious and doesnt backtalk like she did. I also take away toys from my toddlers for a week and they have really responded to that. Every child is different but this is what works for me.

This is always a struggle for me too. I wish I could say I am always a "good" parent and ignore the tantrums and not let my children win. Well, I'm not perfect or even close. Sometimes I let their tantrums get to me and get myself all in a frazzle then I give them whatever they want out of guilt or simply wanting them to stop. I really don't have any great advice besides to try and pick your battles. I have a 6 and 3 year old who throw tantrums everyday, no matter where we are or who we are around. Depending on the situation, ignoring the tantrum is probably best, but sometimes, in the middle of the grocery store, your nerves may not allow for it. I love how I get stares from people if I ignore the tantrums, or respond to them. There seems to be no right or wrong thing to do, beyond abusing your child. Most research I have done on tantrums comes up inconclusive. Every "professional" has a different answer. Probably haven't helped you much, but you are not alone.

Well I have a 3 yr old that throws temper tantrums over anything. It could be something as simple as me walking from one room to another. She will literally throw herself on the floor and kick & scream. My therapist told me to just ignore her for the first couple of minutes and to see if that improved the tantrums. It worked wonderfully. While this may have worked for my child it may not work for yours. Each child is different and has different temperaments. Other things to try is find something she really enjoys and each time you have to take something from her offer that in place of what she had. At that age they are more susceptible to being happy with simple things.

This is a temper tantrum, and the less you react, the better. You can not reason with a toddler during a tantrum. Turn your back on her and start to do something else. Once she starts to calm down, ask if she'd like to join you. Don't mention the tantrum--there's no point at this age.

My daughter is 2 years old and she also has a wicked temper, I do a number of things to try and stop her, I ignore her which seems to be the common one, if that doesnt work and im getting fed up of the awful noise I try and distract her from it by saying something like oh no look outside oh no what we going to do, so she will come and look and then because obviously there is nothing there I continue to distract her by playing silly games or doing something funny until she forgets what she was mad about in the first place!! The other thing I have done with her that sometimes works is throw myself down on the floor and have a tantrum with her and it sometimes stops her in her tracks, but I keep distracting her until she forgets!! I tried the being firm and issuing punishments but to be honest that doesnt work for me, she just gets worse and even more upset to the point that shes got that sobbing hiccup that they get.