bonding to the wrong person

Cats are funny like this. Our daughter was upset that the cat she brought home twelve and a half years ago only really bonded with me. However, I am the one home all the time and usually was the one who fed her and changed the litter etc. Plus the cat was a little jealous when my daughter got married and to this day will still snarl at her hubby. So the cat stayed with me and hubby when daughter went out into the world as a teen and young adult. She knows there is more she could have done to further the bonding between herself and her pet. And as has been mentioned above maybe you can spend more time with yours and make sure the kitty sees that it is you who feeds him and takes care of him. Hope this helps a little.

You know animals will do this. They tend to bond to the person that spends the most time with them and who ever does the feeding. You might ask your mom to not feed her and let you do that when you get home from work. That way the kitten will associate your coming home with being fed. It is a starting point. One more then you can try is to keep treats in your pocket. So that every time you call the kitten and she responds by coming to you you reward her. \she will begin to want to stay in your lap.

Sadly, probably the only way to get her to re-bond to you is to move out so you are her only companion. On the other hand, if you move out, your mother may very well do what my mother did when my brother wanted his cat back - tell you no. I will say that cats bond to who ever they please. While spending a lot of time with them is one way to get them to want to be with you, The room & I are home about the same amount of time, but she works on her computer in an area the cats can get to and I don't. I have cats bonded to me, and she has some bonded to her. Near as I can tell, its the cat's choice, if there is a choice of more than one. I have also noticed that most cats prefer quiet, calm people, but some active adverturous cats like more active people. I even have a few cats that like men, and when men come to visit, they almost totally ignore us.

I have noticed cats to pick the person who doesn't like or didn't want them, to bond with. My husband did NOT want a cat, and my daughter's cat LOVES and prefers him! It's crazy.

The only thing you can do is spend a lot of quality time with him when you are there. Get things to play with him if it is only a string that you walk through the house with. A little catnip and some extra treats would not hurt your case either. I usually do not believe in bribes but in this case I say go for it. Good luck.

I think that you can spend a little more time with the cat...because I have came to notice this since I have had cats almost all of my life....if someone pays a cat alot of attention usually that is the person that the cat will bond to. I think that they do so because that person is always around and are willing to have something to do with them...I honestly think that cats just look for the person that is going to give them the most attention and when they find that person they really bond to them...thats just my idea i dont really know for sure!

I've found that food is the way to an animal's heart! It will help if you are the one to feed your cat and clean her litter box as much as possible. You could also buy cat treats and offer them to her. You could try to engage her in play for a while, and then give her a treat right after playing. I have the same problem sometimes... My cat and I moved in with my parents, and my cat just LOVES my dad! I get so jealous when I see my cat lying on my dad's lap and gazing up at him! My cat NEVER sits with me that way! But cats develop different types of relationships with different people. She probably loves you just as much but sees your mom as security for him!