sister that is gender confused
@crissyannlewis (43)
United States
January 30, 2008 8:45pm CST
I have a younger sister who all her life acted like a boy never had boyfriends and suprise is gay. which first i would like to say is fine with me as long as she is happy. i love her i do but i feel like she dosent fit anywhere nobody in the fam talks to her and not because she is gay but beacuse she is sooo dramatic and pulls people in her drama. anyway she is with a girl that has a son 5 and she calls herself dad which to me feels like she is confusing that kid. she cant keep a job because she keeps picking men jobs which is fine but she goes in there all cocky telling these men that she is better than them and ends up fired. i think she pushes the subject too hard. her girlfriend of 3 yrs cheated and got preg and now she thinks she is a real dad and i can't help her understand that she can be manly but she has to tone it down it a bit without hurting her and making her feel like i don't accept her when i do.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
31 Jan 08
I agree with Zu here that it's not the gender issue that's the problem, but a lack of maturity. It sounds like your sister isn't acting like a man at all, but an overconfident, bratty, teenage boy!
I tend to kind of be on the line when it comes to gender issues myself, so I can understand being a non-feminine female. I can even understand choosing to identify as male, though I'm more gender-neutral if anything. However, if she's going to identify as male or act like a man, she still has to choose to be a responsible adult... especially if she's acting as a parent to her gf's child! Remind her that there's more at stake her than her ego. It doesn't matter if the kid calls her "mom" "dad" or "my stepmother the alien", that child needs a stability that she is currently not giving it with her behavior or her inability to keep a job!
