who do you blame?
By BYOLA2871
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
South Africa
January 31, 2008 10:08am CST
In life,times comes when everything around us looks bad and the walls seems to be closing in on us.At this time anything you touch just turn out negative.In fact you find yourself at your wits end and the solution does not seem to be near.These situation may have arisen because of our negligence or wrong decision or following wrong advise,my question is who do you blame when things go wrong around you.Yourself or others around you?
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@Darkwing (21583)
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6 Feb 08
I blame myself, because I'm allowing the negatives in and disregarding the positives through fear, or whatever. At times such as these, I need to rebalance, and often take time out, on my own, to find my inner self and find a solution to balance my life again.
I have often been known, when times are particularly rough, to take off somewhere on my own, and climb to the top of a lonely hill, near the coast, where I can sit in solitude and reflect on things, determining where I'm headed and what I'm doing wrong. I will find myself again, dispel the negatives and take on the positives to balance myself, and try to put things right in my life. Hence, I learn, conquer my fears and take a positive step forward. If things still don't work out, I'll move on in the knowledge that this wasn't meant to be, and there are better roads ahead. Life is full of obstacles (lessons), and we become wiser with the conquering of each one. Therefore, I alone, am responsible for my own mistakes and successes.
I am heading for my "Fields of Gold", and only I can find the right path. Brightest Blessings.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
6 Feb 08
its a wonderful thing for us to recognise that blaming others for things going wrong is a negative attitude and the aerlier we start taking personal; responsibilities the better we are able to take charge of our lives
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
1 Feb 08
I often blame myself for some of the things that happen but alot of it is beyond our control. I do balme others when it is truly their fault when something goes wrong also. We can only do so much ourselves.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
1 Feb 08
well blaming others for when things go wrong is not a solution,its best to sit down and ask why its happening that way and then look for ways to make them go right,sometimes it becomes a little difficult to do this,in such instances go and getgood advise from a well experienced and reliable person but blaming others is a little out of it and even when its their fault i thiunk we can do a lot to make them realise what they have done wrong than to castigate them.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
2 Feb 08
Yes. you are right. It really isn't like I am pointing a finger at the people or anything like that, but in my mind, i know who is at fault and who isn't. I do try to help them make the right choices or better choices the next time though. It helps them and it helps me too.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
1 Feb 08
thanks for your response i realise quite a long time ago that blaming others for what you did or did not do is just another way of staying inactive and eventually not achieving anything,there are always times when we will fail that is not a problem but the problem ios when you refuse to shake off the failure.john c.maxwell said we need to learn to fail forward that when we fail we should learn to shake it off and move on by learning from the failure.
@BYOLA2871 (4371)
• South Africa
6 Feb 08
never make the mistake of balming others its a negative attitude just try and see where you wqere wrong and decide to make corrections so you can move on
