How can you know that you found THE ONE????

you will know, when your heart flutters so hard everytime you see this girl, and you stutter when you speak,that first kiss will knock you off your feet, when you can't think of anything but that one girl all the time.and her smile will lighten up your face when you see her. GOD IM SUCH A SAP!! LMAO!

I think the reason that you are having difficulties of letting girls near to your heart is because you are setting a gap or a wall against your heart. That gap/wall is somewhat your defense so that you won't get your heart broken like what happened to your past relationships. That is why, for you to start something new with someone, you should be willing to open your heart to that particular person regardless if you'll get your heart broken or not. Remember: When there is love, there will always be pain. We can't force ourselves not to love, at the same time we can't force ourselves not to feel pain when we love. Having been into a bad relationship especially when you love that person can be so hard for you to move on and recover. But that's just the way it is. "You loved, you lost. But at least, you tried." I'm happy that I did. But I have to say, it's not that easy. You'll feel pain, sadness, weary, loneliness. As time goes, it'll heal the pain and make it go away. As for me, I thought I found "The One" but I guess I was wrong. I think it's not just about love. There are several factors that can make that person "the one, the right one". When he understands, he respects, he is loyal, he is committed, you bond, etc.. It's like every thing can't go wrong when you're with him/her. That's the time when I personally can say that "I found him; I found the one."

Hi I must say that i know and understand to completly where you are coming from. I too have been badly hurt in my past and i have been hurt several times since too, I am currently in a happy and loving rel and believe me it has not been easy for me to get to this point, I have tried pushing him away because i am scared that he will hurt me too, I have tried being nasty because i thought that this might push him away from me. But one day i woke up and i thought hang on i dont really want to loose this lovely person, I think that he is worth the risk of getting hurt again to see if we will work. We have now been together for 4 months and we are very happy together. A very good friend of me one day sat me down and gave me good advice she said Richard is not Andy or Rob and you are wrong to judge him. And you know she was 100% right. Sometimes in life there are risks that are worth taking. Good luck and i hope that one day you will be willing to take that risk with someone and be happy

Oh gosh Im sorry I misunderstood you,Gosh I feel dumb now.Im having one of them days where nothing is going right, Could be from lack of sleep last night,was ill all night. Please except my apolagy... I truely hope one day you will find the right one. Dont worry so much about it,it will happen. and when it does you will know. Best of luck... P.S. For now just date and have fun life is too short,treasure it!!

Hey there phantomel! I know exactly what you mean because I for one is searching for the right one. I know how hard it is to look for that someone. I have been single for more than a year and I sometimes go crazy looking for my other half. But since, I haven't found him yet, all I do is wait and of course enjoy every moment of my life. I know that life could never be as wonderful if shared with someone. Yet it is not really so easy to look for that someone to share life with. In life, we happen to meet a lot of people and we could never really tell if that person is already the one we are looking for. Well for me, the best thing to do is to wait and appreciate whoever comes into your life. And let us always be ready to embrace life's surprises. Enjoy life dude!

I partially agree with meemingNEW...You shouldn't have any wall, whatsoever. But it is not mandatory to be hurt, to suffer pain or deceive, and the other plagues she mentioned. She would say: "How can you recognize happiness if you wouldn't meet suffer?"...Answer: because you feel it. We have that special sense in our minds that says something is good without comparing it to any experience in the past. Actually this is where illusion is born: comparing events in life can be tricky...you can say something is better than it was, but is it the best? So, phantomel, as I wasn't refering directly to your topic, now i am: Tip number one - find someone! Tip number two - be happy, starting a new happiness, if i may say so!