Do you trust your kids?

well my kids are too young to decide those kins of thing but i think if parents wont trust their kids then who else wil do so hope u get my point take care

I have from the start, let my children make decisons. I this starts from birth when we are trying formula,binkis,bottles ect.. We change till we find one they are happy with, dont we? As soon as they could reconize "colors' I would pick a special outift out to buy (actualy 2) and let them choose. I have and know I willget slamed for this so be it my kids are happy and healthy teens. As twins I never dressed them the same. (abt 10 times in 14+ years and mostly by themsleves) At the age of abt 7 one of them came to me abt his socks and pants and said I really would rather wear this kind. Well we are frugal shoppers and all he wanted was differtn style socks and slacks instead of jeans. WOW a young man in the making.. wanting slacks over jeans.. okay easy say yes.. It wasnt like.. he wanted go tgo at that age and get pierced.. (though I have said if he wants to he CAN!) One likes a twin bed.. one want and now has a double.. One likes to be clean.. and one well is more laid back. I feel kids need to learn to make decisons.. so that when they are ready to leave and move on they have a knowldge of making them good and bad ones.. and can know how to learn to deal with them. Isn't that what we as the adults (cause there are more then jsut parents raising our kids.) Thats all for now.. Rae

My son is only five and even though I do let him choose what he wants to wear and what to eat with a slight variation from me, I don't let do everything, like the bigger things. I would not let him go wherever he wanted unless there was adult supervision. He goes on playdates after I have spoken with a parent first. I believe most of what he says to me but don't fully trust him as he often tests things with me and I have caught him out of a lie now and then.

I don't completely give my kids freedom to do their thing.

Of course I do because that is the only i'll know what are their preference, how deep is their thoughts, if their decision skills are now molded or needs to be taught how to weigh options, etc... Sometimes, you need to trust your kids so that they would also learn how to be independent and trustworthy.

dont let kids do what they want......or later theyll hit u.

I do trust my kids a great deal BUT I also realize that they are kids and will try to test the waters ya know...As for what they wear, I've always let them pick out their own outfits and now that they are 14 1/2 and almost 13 of course they pick out their own clothes..Where they go is a bit of a different story..first off we live in the country now so they arent allow to just up and go wherever they want..BUT anywhere they've lived, I've had distance boundries set up and they abide by them...

I trust them with simple things which I know they can manage even without my supervision. But when it comes to "big" things, I make it sure that I am around. Guiding and making it sure they are on the right track and are safe.