After years of marriage, where has the magic hand gone to?
By victron88
@victron88 (41)
Malaysia
February 1, 2008 2:18am CST
This is a fact of life which most married couples after some years of marriage would experience some day. When you first meet your mate, there is so much of excitement even as you sit near near her/him. Your mates hands are like a magic wand. When he or she touches you, your body trembles, your hands shake, and theres an electrical flow all over your body. You get married, and it is the same. His or her hands over you sends electrifying pulses into your body. Excitement fills all over you. The hands are like the fairies magic wand. After years of marriage, the hands are not able to do those exciting things anymore. The hand may be just like a piece of wood to your spouse. It gives no more of those tingling feelings that run into your spine. Why? Where has the magic hands gone to? Can we revive this magic once again? The magic hands do not work on your spouse anymore, but what will happen if the same hand touches someone else. Is it going to start all over again? Is life so unfair? Do all couples share the same problem or does it affect only some unlucky couples?
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
1 Feb 08
i believe there is no real answer to this question. the magic sometimes is in the couples imagination..and when you get married reality takes a hand in bringing you back to true feelings..
i tried to make my wife happy and do things for her..and what she would do was whine and nit pic about any little thing she did not like..so i just stop trying so hard to please her..she would make a mountain out of a mole hill and it seems you can't always be responeable for another persons happiness no matter how you try.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
1 Feb 08
...perhaps she was specially hurt as a child.. it seems to me that people who need healing always feel insecure, slighted, easily insulted, etc, and cannot seem to receive other's love for them very easily and also have a hard time trusting that person and love; or life itself. The healing takes deep down relaxation.. where one can find a solid feeling and footing concerning life..
..all the best..
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@asawako48162 (3321)
• United States
2 Feb 08
she is extremely rude to her own family. she just back from a 45 day visit to her brothers home and all heard was constant complaints about everything..nothing suited her..in the end they probably were glad that she cut her trip short when she got sick...she always gets sick going home..this should be a clue but she keeps going back and getting the same result..i call this insanity...call it what you will..there is no excuse for bad mannners and she is changing..for the worse.
she is ony 55 years old but she has always been difficult to get along with..even her "friends" ask "why are mad all the time"? so i live from day to day and pray for strength and understanding...i know I am not perfect but at least i show some common courtesy....sorry to complain..there are worse couples then us.. i know..i have seen about everything..but you are right..she was hurt as a child and grew up like a waif (orphan_(
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@angel08 (120)
• Philippines
2 Feb 08
It's true that the Magic gradually fade away not totally gone maybe because we're always together . I tell you what, I'm a widow of 4yrs now, when my husband passed away that's the moment I felt I wasted so many years of not showing him that he's important and that I love him. I missed those moment that we're together. So feel those Magic again, revive it (yes it can be revive coz it's what we feel) life is short or you'll regards it when the time comes.
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@flowerchilde (12529)
• United States
1 Feb 08
No way! Hey that was some good writing by the way.. I'd save that somewhere if I was you.. write a book..
- So how is it that you haven't found the magic formula? All you need is affection.. but maybe it's the source of all affection that we humans perhaps miss.. Affection is the electricity which flows through us and our hands! But when this well seems to run a bit dry (through familiarity, busyness, whatever) what to do? It's my opinion the longer the relationship the more happy and exciting it is, or can be.. cause two people get very familiar and relaxed with each other.. It's great! And so the intimacy keeps blossoming too.. If we think of love as a tiny garden of eden, we can see that it needs sunshine and water.. two things which symbolize the great (happy) source of all beingness.. who is Life itself.. the one great rule all religions have? Is to love that being.. That's it. The magic key to everything and the more we do it the more love and affection and light will flow and shine through us, making our love very deep and joyful.
:)
p.s.. there's a bit o the poet in you!
